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WE ARE STILL FUND RAISING FOR OUR ADDITIONAL MEMORIAL WALL.
PLEASE HELP IF YOU CAN.


NOVEMBER, 2017 MESSAGE FROM MARY THANK YOU, FOR ATTENDING AND SUPPORTING OUR NATIONAL DAY OF REMEMBRANCE

The Greater Portland Chapter is honored to pay recognition to all of the people who helped support our “National Day of Remembrance” on September 25, 2017. We had a great attendance and outstanding people who volunteered to help. It takes all of us to make it a success.

The city of Oregon City and staff at Mt. View Cemetery planted the flowers, decorated the cemetery, set everything up for us, played the music, helped in any way possible. They were all amazing. BCT furnished the hamburgers, condiments and did the barbecuing.

We were in awe because of our keynote speaker, District Attorney Joshua Marquis. Not only did he give an outstanding speech, he changed it to include information on Dee Dee Kouns, a committed POMC member and victims’ rights advocate who had just passed. We dedicated our 2017 Day of Remembrance to Ms. Kouns. She was a member since 1980. Dee Dee and her husband helped get bills passed that would give more rights to co-victims of homicide and spent years of their lives helping co-victims get through our justice system. There is a poem this month in this newsletter explaining about her dedication to victims of homicide.

Businesses that donated services or items, as well as members who helped financially or personally are as follows: Tom Fowler donated the beautiful balloons from his company “Lighter Than Air”, Starbucks at the Oregon City Shopping Center, and Costco sent cookies and pastries. Others that brought food or gave donations or helped with putting the “Day of Remembrance on were as follows: Eleanore Baccellieri, Rose Minor and Mark, Maryalice Godfrey, Rich Umphress, Delores and Lee Cook, Gayle Moffitt, Anton and Delores Kuntz, Pat Kuiper, Shirlene Guthrie, Rhonda, Mary and Bob Elledge, Pat Schwiert, Lesia Kennedy, Post 1324 Veterans of Foreign Wars, John and Marlene Young, Karen Cornwall, Bob Pfeifer Rosemary Brewer, Melanie Kebler, Yazmin Wadia, Amanda Burnett, Debbie Holfield, and Sylvia, and Allen Tremain. If we have forgotten anyone, please forgive us.

Last, but not least, we are so grateful to all the people who attended. Without our audience, we could not have our program. It was pleasing to have so many people honoring and remembering our loved ones. As each name was read, we know that a loved one is being remembered. As long as we remember, they will be with us.

What I have seen over the last years is that there are less tears in the audience. I think that it is because this is the day we honor our loved ones. We know that we are not alone. Each of our loved ones will have their name engraved in stone. The cemetery will always protect our loved one’s memorial. It is protected by a city charter. The land will never be sold. We also are sending a message that our society
feels that each life matters. We will never forget nor should others. Taking a life is the worst kind of theft. Homicide cannot be resolved. The names on our memorial proves this. They will not be forgotten.

Mary Elledge


FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND SUPPORTERS GATHERED TOGETHER TO HONOR DEE DEE KOUNS FOR HER COUNTLESS HOURS TO HELP VICTIMS OF CRIMES AND BALANCE THE JUSTICE SYSTEM.

In 1980, Dee Dee and Bob Kouns received the most devastating news a family could receive. Their daughter, Valerie, was missing. She had been living in California. This was not at all like anything she had ever done before. They closed up their business and went to California to help investigate. They spent years looking for answers. At that time, there was little help available to them. The Kouns had little support from the authorities as well making it even worse. Valerie’s body was not found until years later.

They didn’t stop there. They came back to Oregon and joined Parents Of Murdered Child. However, that was not enough. In 1983, they started Crime Victims United, (CVU). This is an outstanding group that helps gets rights for victims of crimes, changes in the justice system, and lobbies for legislation for victims of crimes. They worked hard to balance the justice system. Their lives were consumed with getting rights for victims.

Bob Kouns died in 2004. Dee Dee still worked behind the scenes. She would also speak out when needed or to endorse laws and bills for the protection of society. I will never forget the countless hours we spent at meetings or on the phone. None of us would be where we are today without their support and dedication.

A celebration of Dee Dee’s life was held in Charbonneau on Sunday, October 15, 2017. Her service was truly a tribute. This remarkable lady gave victims’ rights a whole new meaning. Dee Dee and her husband paved the way for victims. Though Dee and Bob both received wonderful praise, there are no words that can express what she did and sacrificed for victims in Oregon. She had a remarkable turn out
at her “celebration of life”.

Steve Doell has continued for years now as head of Crime Victims United. We are most grateful. He also works to continue on their legacy and give victims a voice. It takes all of us and those who work for the justice system to keep victims’ rights in place.


DEE DEE KOUNS WILL BE REMEMBERED AS A CHAMPION FOR BALANCING THE JUSTICE SYSTEM.

Our own Dee Dee Kouns came into this world
In Arapahoe, Nebraska on March 20, 1928;
Being the youngest of six children,
She was born to debate.

She was just seven when her family
Moved to Oregon
In addition, that sealed our fate;
Without her and her second husband, Bob Kouns,
Our justice system in Oregon
Would have been slower to incubate.

Dee Dee married her first husband, “Mac” McDonald,
A WWII Navy Veteran, in 1947;
They had three beautiful children,
Michael, Patrick, and Valerie,
And I am sure a life right from heaven.

Sadly to say, “Mac” died in a swimming accident in 1954;
In 1956, Dee Dee met Bob Kouns, who was so taken by this family,
He probably immediately started waiting for them
Outside their door.

In 1957, Dee Dee married Bob Kouns, another incredible man;
In 1958, they added Kevin Kouns,
Another son to this amazing clan.

The Kouns family kept busy with their children and lives
In addition were a remarkable force;
What prompted them into action
Was the murder of their beloved daughter Valerie,
And they found victims had no recourse.

Dee Dee and Bob joined Parents of Murdered Children
Therefore, they could help others and themselves as well;
Who would have believed that justice
For victims were like rights from hell?

This magical couple started Crime Victims United in 1983;
They wanted a group to help victims like you and me.
The Kouns were responsible for the passing of Measure 10;
Without their help, it would not win.

They traveled the state educating people on rights for victims
And a balanced justice system that could work;
They gave their time freely and supported
Victims and co-victims and let those who took away people’s rights
Be the ones that would be the jerk.

They helped pass Measure 11, stronger sentences, Measure 26,
A constitutional change for “protection of society, and other rights
We now use every day;
It was time for victims to have equal rights
And that innocent people
Are not the ones to pay.

Bob Kouns passed away in 2004;
Dee Dee still spoke out and did what she could
As she always felt victims should have more.

Dee Dee Kouns died on September 20, 2017;
I bet her last thoughts were of her beloved children,
Four grandchildren, three great-grandchildren,
Moreover, that new victims of crimes are always seen.

Mary Elledge


DRAGONFLIES REPRESENT TRANSFORMATION

Dragonflies are such delicate looking little creatures,
However, do not be fooled—like us,
They have adaptable features.

So many things in its life will rearrange;
Having adaptability enables
Both of us to change.

Dragonflies were sent to you and me to remind us
To bring lightness and joy’
Into our life;
We cannot survive if there is only strife.

These harmless creatures lived long before
The dinosaurs lived on Earth;
We can borrow their determination
To realize our worth.

Similar to humans, their bodies
Change numerous times as they grow;
They fly in tandem to be a couple
Like humans, that want others to know.

Dragonflies are masters
In their ability to fly;
When we watch,
We can lift our spirits up in the sky.

We have found that identical to humans,
A dragonfly displays a capacity
For selective attention;
Alternatively, maybe like us, it might
Just be hypertension!

Somehow, dragonflies know when we are sad;
They are so beautiful when we look at them
We cannot stay mad.

We now can see how adaptable this
Little creature can be;
We know he will impart strength
In addition to lightheartedness for you and me.

Mary Elledge


The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Lois Ward has done a remarkable job on her book about her beloved son, Shane. In her own words, Lois lets us know the loss and pain she has gone through and the injustice of her case. Her book is like a documentary. She has also written several other books about her life. She is able to recreate what has made her who she is.

“Defending Shane” is a tribute to her son and a true glimpse of what can happen and does in murder cases. I am proud of Lois as she is sharing one of the saddest things that can happen to a mother, the murder of her child. Thank you, Lois, for your dedicated work.

Mary Elledge

Hello, my name is Lois, and I am writing this to announce the book I wrote titled: defending SHANE. I wrote this book, and designed the covers to help “show” Shane’s life. Shane is my son. He was born on November 21, 1969, and he was murdered on a cold, sunny afternoon - December 14, 1989. Shane had stopped to defend a young girl who was being physically assaulted by a gang member, when a second gang member attacked Shane from behind, rupturing a main artery in the back of his head. I am told people who do what Shane did are called “the peacemaker”, and they are ofter killed in the process. The girl Shane had stepped-in to defend was released from the first gang member’s hold, and ran to safety. While Shane was being murdered by the gang members other stood by and watched it happen.

I describe how the police had both “offenders” in custody by the end of that first night, yet our town’s police department did not represent my son’s rights, and did not support me in my efforts to get justice for Shane. There was no trial for these offenders, as they were “allowed” to plea bargain down from murder even though they both had previous criminal records – though murdering Shane was their first “murder” offense.

Because I know I am not the only parent in the situation I was in, I started from the beginning of Shane’s life to help readers understand the kind of person he was, and I have included police records, a detectives records, news paper articles, and coroner’s reports in this book to show the truth of this nightmare.

Though this book is expensive because it contains full color photographs, and police documents, I am making the book available at a discount price for a short time to make it more affordable for POMC members through the Internet site: https://www.creatspace.com/7208352 and enter the Code: FSC69HNS. This special offer is valid through December 1, 2017. Any feed-back you would like to give about this book is welcome, and if you wish to send a quote I can use in my advertisement you can send it to my email address: lo@loislouise.work
My best wishes to all,
Thank you,
Lois (Louise) Ward


INSTRUCTIONS FOR GETTING YOUR LOVED ONES’ PICTURE ON OUR MEMORIAL BOARD

For our “Holiday Memorial on December 5th, if we do not have a picture of your loved one already, please mail or e-mail it to: Pat Schwiebert at 2116 N. E. 18th Street, Portland . OR 97212. Her e-mail is: pat@tearsoup.com. Pat needs the pictures as soon as possible so she can include them in our slide show. Your loved one’s name will be read out loud even if we do not have a picture on our board.

We are so grateful to Pat and her family at “The Peace House”, where we hold our meetings. They spend hours decorating their home so it is beautiful for our holiday memorial. For many, this time is the most special day they have during the holiday season since the murder of their loved one. It is a safe place to be.

Thank You


POMC IS NOW RECEIVING DONATIONS
FROM GO FUND ME
OREGON POMC MEMORIAL WALL

On behalf of the Greater Portland Area Chapter of Parents of Murdered Children, I would like to express our deepest appreciation to all of the generous people who have donated to the building of our addition memorial wall. We have a beautiful POMC Memorial now and families and friends from all over Oregon and Washington come to honor the memory of their loved ones who were so brutally taken from them. Sadly to say, our wall is completely filled. We have 500 names engraved on it.

What we are planning to do when we have enough funds is to build an additional wall that will hold 1000 more names. We have so many families who are waiting to add their loved ones’ name. It means so much to them because one of our greatest fears as a co-victims of homicide is that our loved one will not be remembered. They did not get to live the life they were suppose to. Some of the names on our wall belong to little babies to any age of adult. As co-victims, we have all suffered the same loss, the loss of a loved one to homicide. Our lives were completely changed. Homicide cannot be resolved.

What is also important is that we also educate the public when people come to see our wall. Murder can happen to any family. If people see the amount of people who are murdered, they will realize how important protection of society truly is. We need a justice system that works and laws for the protection of society. At POMC, we wish that people would never need our services. Sadly to say, we are getting more calls each day.

Co-victims of homicide need the peace and tranquility we are able to achieve at our POMC Memorial Wall. We are surrounded by beautiful sequoia trees, running water from the memorial, flowers, verses engraved on the stones that stand tall by the wall and a serenity that gives them hope and a place to gather and see that they are not alone.
We again ask for your help and thank those who have been so generous to our cause. If you would like to help, please go to the website of “Go Fund Me” and look under “POMC Memorial Wall”. All donations are appreciated and tax deductible. So many of our members are waiting to add their loved one’s name to the wall. Oregon has the largest POMC Memorial in the United States. Thank you for your help.


FUNDING FOR THE NEW MEMORIAL WALL IS NOW IN FULL FORCE

Funding for our new POMC Oregon/Washington Wall officially began this January, 2015. Members and friends of our chapter have been generous with donations and we are so thankful. Many of our new members are waiting for their loved ones names to be put on our new wall. We are listing new names that will be engraved when the wall is completed. We ask that members will call us, e-mail, or mail the information if you do not see your loved ones name on the list. The phone number is 503-656-8039, the e-mail is: elledge1@gmail.com or POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road.

We are designing the wall now and hoping to build a wall that will accommodate more names than the existing wall. We want to list all of our loved ones

If any of our members work at a company or know of anyone who would like to make a donation please let us know or it is fine for you to ask for a donation yourself. We are a non-profit organization. Donations are tax deductible. Please use the phone contact numbers from the first paragraph of this article. Thank you so much for your support.

LIST OF NAMES TO BE ENGRAVED ON THE NEW MEMORIAL WALL UPON COMPLETION

Aisha Kathleen Zughbieh-Collins
Amber Rhiannon Adams
Anthony Branch Jr.
Ashley Benson
Austin Joe Hrynko
Benjamin Redmond
Billy Gianella
Braylon Michael Duguay
Brian Romo
Brian Elton Spaulding
Charlie Peralta
Cheritee Yvonne Vance
Cheryl Elizabeth Hart
Christopher James Loftus
Coltin Jacob Salsbury
Coulton McComb-Buehler
Craig C. Moritz Jr.
Dale Archie Brown
Daniel Guerin
David G. Swapp Jr.
David Rothrock
Dean Anthony Kuntz
Devan Chanel Schmidt
Diego Aguilar
Douglas Oliver Benton
Glen Edward Drysdale
Harold Sloan Blanchard
Izaak Gillen
Jared Stout
Jason Michael Ell
Jason Dale Johnson
Jason Scott Williams
Jayme Sue Austin
Jeffery Ray Brown
Jeffery Towers
Jessica Lynn Clark
Jodi Marie Brewer
Joseph Ben Peterson
Julio Cesar Marquez Jr.
Kathleen Lois Bauman
Kaylee Anne Sawyer
Keith Ardell Benefield
Kenneth Dylan Lambert
Kenzie Rose La Buy
Krystal Jaye Mitchell
Kyle William Peckham
Laura Jean Bohlen
London Grey McCabe
Lori G. Billingsley
Marcos Juan Castillo
Molly Irene McCarter
Nicolas Lamont Lawson
Nicolette Naomi “Nikki” Elias
Paul W. Miller
Rachelle “Shelly” Law
Randall Leo Gettman
Raymond Lee Myers
Rebekah “Becky” Selegue Johnson
Ryan Robert Jones
Sahara Grace Dwight
Savannah Danielle Munden
Steve Leroy Johnson
Stuart M. Hess
Thomas James Fite
William Roland Hatch III
Windy Kim Kimball
Erin Kroeker
Braedon Anthony Kroeker
Leia Kroeker
Luke Aiden Kroeker
Ian Patrick McKay

(Please contact us if your loved one’s name does not appear on this paper and you would like to have it added. A form will be added to our newsletter each month to be used for adding names for the wall when it is completed. Please check the spelling of your loved one’s name and let us know if it is wrong. You can e-mail us at elledge1@gmail.com, call 505-656-8039, or mail us at POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Rd., Oregon City, OR 97045.)

MEMORIAL DONATIONS FOR NEW WALL

RHONDA E. AND MIKE O.
GAIL AND G.H. P.
ROGER AND DARLENE M.
GINA W.
RICHARD AND JANET M.
DORA T.
DOLORES C.
STACY G.
KEITH AND PAT E.


BETH GREEAR PUTS SUPPORT GROUP FOR POMC MEMBERS ON FACEBOOK

The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Beth Greear has created a facebook support group for POMC members. To reach it use: www.facebook.com/groups/POMC.Portlalnd.Vancouver/ Beth said that there are several “admins” of the page so she is sure it will be very beneficial to anyone who would like to use it.

We cannot thank her enough for the chance to have even more support for our members. Beth is an outstanding person who is always there to reach out to help others. She even brought a delicious dessert for our December holiday meeting. We will be writing more on this next month and giving the names of other members who are helping with this project.


LIVING WITHOUT JUSTICE

Unsolved Homicides ~ A CoVictims’ Worst Nightmare

The murder of a loved one is the most horrific thing a person can experience.  The only thing that can make it worse is a substandard initial investigation or not seeing justice in your case.  Timely collection of evidence followed by an arrest and conviction would provide a degree of comfort, but what happens to co-victims when a thorough investigation is not done, and there is no arrest?  Many of the victims' friends and acquaintances will gradually let go of their grief over time, but the closest of friends and family will remain in a state of sorrow, haunted by the injustice of investigators that may not have conformed to rules or standard operating procedures during their initial investigation.  Not only is there no relief, but the agony of the event changes their lives forever, and becomes part of their very being.  Co-victims' everyday battle becomes their effort to get a thorough investigation.

Helplessness is a gut-wrenching emotion which plagues co-victims who are not allowed to assist with the investigation and are longing for justice.  We don't want to let our loved one down; we are compelled to fight for justice no matter how long it takes.  As the process drags on, frustration grows.  Many times, due to confidentiality, important conversations between co-victims and law enforcement are avoided, and this lack of communication can cause co-victims to feel neglected and disrespected, which often manifests itself in frustration, anger, and a loss of confidence in the investigators. Regular contact and truthfulness are two of the most important things survivors need from law enforcement. We need investigators to focus on routine communication of as much information as possible with sensitivity and without being misleading. Survivors’ perception that information is not being shared with them can result in them feeling they have been secondarily victimized. As the years pass, co-victims start wondering if their unsolved homicide could be reviewed by a fresh set of eyes, and they often look into getting their case to a cold case unit, only to find out that some jurisdictions don't even have a cold case unit.   If there is a cold case unit in their jurisdiction, cases are evaluated and chosen according to a set of criteria.  Co-victims whose cases seem to be continuously passed over for review become dismayed and even angry toward law enforcement. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action, but uncontrolled anger can negatively affect personal or social well-being. 

Co-victims who put forth the effort to examine and understand the cold case process and various factors which must be dealt with during cold case investigations are able to put the process into perspective.  They must understand that cold cases are among the most difficult and frustrating cases for both co-victims and law enforcement, and not every case is chosen to be investigated.  It helps to review the following criteria checklist used by the National Sheriff’s Association, Justice Solutions and POMC: 

Complete an application for cold case review. This application includes detailed information regarding agency reports, victimology, suspects/persons of interest, timeline, coroner, lab reports, investigation documents, weapon descriptions and media releases.  

Co-victims should also be aware that closing rates can be more successful if investigators work only one or two cases at a time.  At this point, if we find out that our case doesn’t qualify for review by a cold case unit, our only hope is that a thorough re-investigation will be done by homicide investigators. 

If you have comments or questions about this article, please email: pat.kuiper@yahoo.com or call Pat Kuiper at 702-809-8654 to get your loved ones' name listed in our newsletter.  Feel free to contact Pat if you would like to share your story. 

UNSOLVED CASES

Lucy Eilertson (1998)
Diana Moffitt (1987)
Donald James Brown (2007)
Kimberly Larson Reames (1983)
William (Bill) Mark Stratton (2005)


SIBLING SITE IS LAUNCHED

The Greater Portland Chapter is so proud of our member, Amanda Harris, for launching her official site for siblings. Amanda is offering the Website: www.unitingsiblings.com so that sibling co-victims of homicide have a place to go where they will be understood and supported. This site will include video, chat, and telephone conference via a secure and private interface. Amanda is paying for the expenses and will be delighted to be another support for sibling co-victims. Amanda can also be reached at: Amanda@unitingsiblings.com or 623-866-3189.

Amanda Harris is now ready to start her web site for siblings. The Portland Chapter is excited about the support and understanding this new group will be for the many often overlooked survivors.


NATIONAL POMC SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER SUBSCRIPTION FORM

Please find, enclosed, $10.00 for my annual subscription (three issues) for the Survivors Newsletter.
(Please consider adding an extra subscription fee to help defray the cost for someone who cannot afford it.)

NAME: _____________________________________________________________________________

ADDRESS: __________________________________________________________________________

CITY, STATE, ZIP____________________________________________________________________

MAIL TO: POMC, INC. ENCLOSED IS MY: CHECK _________________

100 E. EIGHTH STREET, B-41 MONEY ORDER__________

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PERMISSION FOR ENGRAVING OF NAMES FOR POMC’S OREGON/WASHINGTON MEMORIAL WALL

PRINTED NAME OF LOVED ONE_________________________________________ (This will be engraved on the wall)

LOVED ONE’S BIRTHDATE____________________________ DEATH DATE____________________________

MEMBER/FRIEND’S NAME AND ADDRESS ____________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________________________________________

MEMBER/FRIEND’S PHONE NUMBER_____________________________ Do you want a Newsletter? Yes No

SIGNATURE FOR PERMISSION TO
ENGRAVE NAME AND SPELLING APPROVAL_________________________________________________________

Please submit one form for each loved one. Please make efforts with other family members/friends to ensure multiple requests are not received for the same name. When completed, please mail, fax, or e-mail to the following places: POMC, Mary Elledge, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR 97045 or fax 503-656-4420, or e-mail: elledge1@email.com. If you have any questions, please call 503-656-8039.

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Oregon-Washington Public Memorial Garden
Remembering Those We Have Lost to Murder
CONTRIBUTION OR PLEDGE FORM

Please Complete and Return to Memorial Garden,
POMC 14427 S. Forsythe Rd Oregon City, OR 97045

100% of Contributions are Tax Deductible

Name:____________________________________________ phone: __________________________

Address:_____________________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________________________________

E-MAIL: ___________________________________________________

Options :

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Anonymous gift (will not be recognized at the Memorial Garden or in published materials)

Method of Payment:

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Thank you for helping to create the Oregon-Washington Public Memorial Garden. Your generosity will never be forgotten.

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Tacoma Violent Crime Victim Services Welcomes Homicide Survivors

Peer Support Group Meeting

If someone you love has been the victim of a homicide, we invite you to attend our monthly support group meeting. You will find acceptance, compassion and support.

Place: United Way Building
3rd FLOOR CONFERENCE ROOM

Date: 3rd Wednesday of Each Month!
Time: 7:30PM – 10:00PM

The United Way Building is located in Tacoma, at 1501 Pacific Avenue. This is the same building that the VCVS office is located in. It is next to Union Station on the north side. As you pass Union Station you will see the United Way Building. Parking is on the south side of the building. Please park your vehicle in an open space and enter the building’s front entrance and take the elevator to the third floor. The conference room is Suite 312. Please call Lew Cox for more information (253) 383-5254.


Court Watch

POMC'S Court Watch Program is designed to help families maneuver through the court system. Two of the most important aspects of Court Watch are the prevention of any re-victimization to family members, and the minimizing of the emotional pain of going through hearings and trials.

If you would like support from POMC during hearings and trials or want to offer assistance, call Pat Elmore at 503-312-5681 or Allen Tremain at 503-522- 0577.


Important Notice Concerning The Newsletter:

Each month a number of newsletter are returned due to delivery problems. In addition to the initial postage, return postage is charged by the Postal Service. To minimize this expense, please write to the return address of this newsletter or contact Gayle if your address changes or you no longer wish to receive this publication.