One of the most painful dilemmas a co-victim of homicide goes through is to ‘forgive or not to forgive’.
From the start of our journey through the unbearable grief and emotional turmoil, we are approached with the question, “Are you going to forgive the person or persons who murdered your loved ones?” Some people may say that God requires us to forgive. Others may tell us that if we forgive the ones who murdered our loved ones we are excusing what they did. Our heart can tell us both. Thankfully, there are other alternatives. There is a way to heal your pain, move on, and actually get to a “new normal.”

I have written before about “forgiveness” in earlier newsletters. What I felt and wrote was hard to validate by specialists in the field. Finding the book, “The Forgiveness Myth,” validates what I feel in my heart and what I feel would be a relief for so many co-victims of homicide who face or have faced this as part of their journey through grief. Gary Egeberg and Wayne Raiter have written a book that challenges the idea that there is only one way. The most important aspect of this book is that it helps us let go without feeling guilty. We do not need to focus on the abusers or murderers. It should be up to them to want and work for forgiveness and redemption.

In the start of the book, Egeberg and Raiter wrote the following paragraph and I feel that it sets the tone
of what might work for so many who struggle or have struggled with “forgiveness.”

What we hope to make clear is that your willingness, or your highly conflicted desire to forgive, or your ability to forgive in certain situations is not because you don’t value the psychological or spiritual ideal and practice of forgiveness, nor is it because you are spiritually defective. Instead, you will come to recognize, perhaps for the very first time, that there are valid reasons for not always wanting or being able to forgive and that you are far from alone in your struggles.

The authors continue to write that forgiveness is for the people who have been offended and not for the offender. As co-victims of homicide, we not only have had the worst thing happen to us, we cannot give forgiveness from the person they murdered. That person is dead! We can only give forgiveness from ourselves and how can we? In many cases, the murderer will not even admit they committed the murder. They will swear they were not even by the victim when he or she was murdered. If evidence, is found to the contrary, they will find other excuses to why they did what they did. If we offer forgiveness to someone who is not even sorry, how will we be able to justify this to the ones we loved who were murdered? If my son could offer forgiveness to the murderer, so be it. In this case, I cannot speak for him. In order to have peace for myself, I have left it up to God. This is what I hope will help others who face this dilemma.

Our family and loved ones mean more to us than our own lives. I do not think I can think of hardly any parents who would not have traded places with their child or children who were murdered if they could have. When co-victims are told they must forgive, many feel that they do not want any part of excusing the unthinkable behavior of the offender or to excuse what the offender did.

Before my son was murdered, I never thought that it would be so easy for some people to do unbearable things to others. Worst of all, they are not the least bit sorry. Some people with antisocial personalities only care about what happens to them. My son was murdered by a person who told me that he was my son’s best friend. He also said, “Rob is like a brother to me.” (I did not realize he meant Cain and Abel.) He claimed his innocence during the trial and during all of his sentence reviews except for his last review. At that time, he blamed my son for being such a terrible person. He never has taken responsibility for murdering my son or for the fact that he hired two men to help with the crime.

I have had to let go of the hate I carried for the murderer of my son. Hating can make us physically and mentally ill. It also wastes energy that can resolve other things. Hate does have its good side though. It can help us be motivated when it is used in helping others. Cruelty and injustice to others should never happen! If we tolerate murder and torture, we will become as bad as those who commit the crimes. This is why we have laws and rights for victims. We need not waste our time on people who commit these crimes with no remorse. How can you rehabilitate someone who is not sorry? Protection of society is now part of our Oregon Constitution when dealing with offenders.

When we forgive, we try to see the goodness or potential goodness in a person. When a murderer is not sorry and has not told the truth it is nearly impossible to forgive. What about the murderer, Dayton Leeroy Rogers? He tortured and murdered eight women. His behavior was incomprehensible. What he did remains forever in the minds of the families left behind. Who of us has the right to forgive what he did to eight women? However, since he had done unsurmountable damage to the victims and their families, the only peace they can possibly have is not to let his evilness hurt them further. They should be allowed to choose what they feel is best to be able to live with the scares he has left in their hearts and minds.

In telling people that they must forgive, we are giving them harmful advice. What we are doing is making them think that something is wrong with them. They are even told that they could go to hell because of their lack of forgiveness. I have seen the tears co-victims shed from being told they must forgive or they will go to hell.

We need to offer unconditional compassion to the one whose loved one was murdered. When people are told that they must forgive and they cannot, we heighten feelings of guilt, failure, or inadequacy according to authors, Egeberg and Raiter. It also leaves co-victims of homicide feeling misunderstood and alone. They need support in order to let go of the hate for their own physical and mental wellbeing and at their own pace. There is a difference between hate and forgiveness.

Just as it may be impossible to forgive, some co-victims are not ready to let go of the hate they feel. It is not simple when your entire life has fallen apart. What works for one person does not work for another. Humans are complex. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, can cause co-victims of homicide to live with the scenario of the murder of their loved one playing over and over in their minds. We encourage members to look for professional help and find supportive friends who will listen to their story. Self-help support groups are also effective. Everyone’s pain needs to be respected and heard.

Forgiveness to some co-victims may mean different things to other co-victims. To some it may mean that if they forgive, they are forgetting what happened to their loved one. This is why we leave it to the co-victims left behind. The following list is some healthy alternative to forgiving from “The Forgiveness Myth.” (I have left some out since they did not deal with co-victims of homicide and have added others.)

  1. Moving on as I keep the focus on myself and needs.

  2. Releasing the pain of the past to God, my higher power, or the Universe.

  3. Taking tender care of myself, just as I would if I had suffered a physical injury or illness.

  4. Grieving what I lost.

  5. Embrace new opportunities.

  6. Believe that we can get to a “new normal” without forgetting our loved one.

  7. The pain will get softer. This does not mean that I miss or love them less.

  8. Remember that you are not alone. There are people who understand “the aftermath of homicide.”
    (The last three are from what I have learned as a co-victim of homicide.)

It is normal to feel anger, hatred, and rage. It does not matter if you have always been against such feelings. You have suffered unbearable grief, the loss of a loved one to homicide. It takes time, love and support, and a justice system that is truly just. It is not up to anyone else to say when it is time.

Only you will know and we are here for you. Some of the greatest people I know are co-victims of homicide and the others are people who are there for us in any way possible.

In addition, I would like to add that there are people who can forgive and that does not mean they have suffered any less or they did not love their loved one as much. We all have our own beliefs and ways we can cope. Hopefully, this article will let you know that it is your choice.

All my love, Mary Elledge


On February 14, 2018, a three-judge panel ruled that Oregon lawmakers 2017 law that reduced sentences without required two-thirds vote of the legislature was invalidated because it reduced sentences without required two-thirds vote of the Legislature.

House Bill 3078 was narrowly passed by the legislature on a largely partisan vote. It dramatically reduced the presumptive sentences for repeat property offenders who commit ID Theft or Theft in the First Degree (over $1,000), doubles the number of prior offenses required to qualify for repeat property offender status, and increases early release programs for property offenders and many violent criminals. HB3708 also further eroded “truth in sentencing” (meaning the sentenced announced in court is the one served by the convicted defendant) by further expanding transitional leave. The sentencing changes enacted by the bill undo provisions of Ballet Measure 57.

In 2008, Oregon voters passed Measure 57, which increased presumptive sentences for offenders convicted of repeat property crimes. Over 60% of Oregon, voters supported the measure and it is likely that many of those who did not support it voted for Ballot Measure 61, a far more aggressive measure that required mandatory minimum sentences for property offenders. Measure 57 passed by a wide margin (61.4%) and Measure 61 was narrowly defeated (48.9%).

The lawsuit argued that the legislature unlawfully modified sentences established by the voters and asked the court to halt the changes that are slated to go into effect on January 1, 2008. When voters passed Ballet Measure 11 in 1994, in a separate Ballot Measure 10 they imposed a requirement that any changes to any voter approved sentence may not be altered by the legislature without a 2/3 supermajority. HB 3078 reduces sentences that were established by the voters through Measure 57
and failed to receive the prescribed supermajority. Despite this failure, the presiding officers of the legislature and the governor signed the bill into law.

We would like to thank Clackamas County District Attorney John Foote for letting POMC know what is happening in the Oregon Legislature. Mary Elledge joined with District Attorney John Foote and Deborah Maples –Stice to file a lawsuit arguing that House Bill was unconstitutional. It is important that voters realize that the Oregon Legislature would seek to undo a voter-approved measure without the required supermajority. We are still not finished though it was ruled unconstitutional because the ruling can be appealed. There will be more arguments. We will keep members notified.

District Attorney Joshua Marquis, Clatsop County, commented on Measure HB 3078 in the Willamette Weekly saying:
“These judges’ decision really takes the Democratic majority and their enablers, the State AG, to task for breaking the law. Voters passed a moderate, sensible repeat property crime measure (57) in 2008. In order to get it passed, they enlisted the support of Oregon’s DAs. Then the legislative majority almost immediately reneged and worse with only 33 and 18 votes (not to the 40 and 20 in the House and Senate respectively they needed.) They gutted MEASURE 57.

This takes power from judges and it benefits two groups; repeat property felons and their lawyers. Shame on DOJ for not recognizing their conflict of interest and hiring an outside firm to defend the legislature’s position. Is 7 months in prison as a Maximum the fairest penalty for someone on their third or fourth embezzlement? As John Adams said, “We are a nation of laws, not a nation of men.”


The words of others keep playing
Over and Over in my mind;
They cannot understand as well
And this is not kind.

They think they are helping when
They said I should forgive;
They do not realize that there are times
They I do not even want to live.

My loved one was murdered
In the most cruelest way;
The ones who murdered him
Think that they should not
Have to pay!

They lied and lied in the courtroom;
They tried to paint a picture of gloom.

Though, they were the murders,
They painted my son as the evil one;
Yet, he was the victim, my only son.

I can see now that hating these men
Causes me more pain;
If we continue to hate,
It extinguishes our brain.

This is where we can give it to a Higher Power;
Hate makes everything sour.

I do not worry that I should have to forgive;
Each co-victims of a crime,
Does what they have to do to live.
Mary Elledge


On behalf of our POMC Greater Portland Area Chapter, I would like to thank Shirlene Guthrie for allowing us to use the wonderful story her husband, Tom Guthrie, wrote for her the second Christmas after their son, Gregory, was murdered on September 27th, 1991. Tom has since passed after a long illness with Alzheimer’s disease.


Mr. Bear always remembers his second Christmas because he wanted to forget his first. Eight weeks before his first Christmas, he was packed in a large box with other teddy bears. Then, one morning, the box was opened and he was taken out, given a pat to make sure all of his stuffing was in the right place, and set on a shelf.

Mr. Bear was amazed when he looked around. A whole room full of teddy bears. More bears than he had seen at the factory where he was assembled. More—more—more. So many his head spun. About that time the door to the shop opened and a woman and a small boy came in. Mr. Bear watched as they approached some bears siting on the floor. To his amazement, the little boy grabbed a bear by the ear and flipped him high in the air. The boy’s mother caught the bear and scolded the boy “not until we buy one”. Mr. Bear wasn’t sure what to think of this. Were teddy bears meant to spend their lives flying through the air? While it looked like fun, he wasn’t sure he would like to do it all the time.

As it turned out, Mr. Bear didn’t need to worry. People came and went, days came and went, and still he sat on the shelf. Occasionally someone would stop and at him, and being a proper teddy bear, he would try to appear as lovable as possible. But, after a moment, they would set him back on the shelf and go on their way. Then, one day he saw “the box” being loaded with other bears. Shortly after that, his time came and it was back in the box with the others bears.

This time it seemed like such a long time before the box opened again. But, finally one day the box was opened and he went back on the shelf. Mr. Bear began to think maybe his job is going to be to either help fill a box on sit on a shelf. He didn’t much care for either of these. Again, the same thing happened. Days passed, people looked at him and set him back on the shelf, and still he sat.

He knew it was getting close to box time again because fewer and fewer bears were on the shelves. Finally, an older man came in and stopped right in front of Mr. Bear. He had long since given up trying to look special; he just looked back at the man. The man looked away and moved on looking at other bears, picking up some for examination and continuing to look. He went completely around the store finally returning to Mr. Bear. After looking at him for a moment, he went to the clerk. They both approached Mr. Bear and he head the worst words he had ever heard, “Do you have one like that only just a bit larger?” The clerk replied, “No, he only comes in that size”. The man thanked the clerk and continued looking at the other bears. Finally when Mr. Bear had lost all hope, the man returned picked him up, and went to the clerk. “I guess I will take this one,” he said. Mr. Bear was so excited. He didn’t know what would happen to him but he knew he wasn’t going back in the box. He was placed in a pretty pink sack and the top closed around him. A few days passed and Mr. Bear began to wonder if he had traded the box for a pink sack.

Finally, the sack opened and the man took him out. He looked at Mr. Bear and there were tears in his eyes. This really puzzled Mr. Bear. Bears were supposed to make people happy. After a moment he put Mr. Bear behind his back and went into a different room. Mr. Bear could only see where he had been so he had no idea what was going on. Then the man brought Mr. Bear forward and handed him to a woman. Mr. Bear looked up at her, holding his stubby little legs up, and saw the same tears he had seen in the man’s eyes. The woman took him and hugged him as he had never been hugged and he knew that he was home.

After they are assembled, all teddy bears attend Bear School where they learn what is expected of them. Mr. Bear remembered that teddy bears have two purposes. One is to provide love and companionship to children and the second is to provide support to adults (big people) when they have trouble.

Bears are taught that they not only can provide love but, they can also absorb pain. Just by being hugged Teddy Bears can take away some of the pain big people feel. Mr. Bear knew that this was going to be his job. Both the man and woman would pick him up, hug him tightly and sob. Great horrendous sobs that Mr. Bear knew contained more pain that anyone should bear. Even with all the pain, Mr. Bear felt good because he know that what he was doing was very important.

Months later, after the sobs had become less frequent and not quite so intense, Mr. Bear found out what caused them. The man and woman’s little boy’s life had been stolen by another person. Mr. Bear could not imagine a person that could do something like that. All the people that he had met were loving, but Mr. Bear knew it wasn’t his job to figure out people. It was his job to provide love and support.

Mr. Bear was a Christmas present to Shirlene Guthrie the Christmas after her son, Gregory was murdered on September 27th, 1991. We hope that you can find a “Mr. Bear” to comfort you.

By Tom Guthrie (Copyright 1997)

The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Lois Ward has done a remarkable job on her book about her beloved son, Shane. In her own words, Lois lets us know the loss and pain she has gone through and the injustice of her case. Her book is like a documentary. She has also written several other books about her life. She is able to recreate what has made her who she is.

“Defending Shane” is a tribute to her son and a true glimpse of what can happen and does in murder cases. I am proud of Lois as she is sharing one of the saddest things that can happen to a mother, the murder of her child. Thank you, Lois, for your dedicated work.

Mary Elledge

Hello, my name is Lois, and I am writing this to announce the book I wrote titled: defending SHANE. I wrote this book, and designed the covers to help “show” Shane’s life. Shane is my son. He was born on November 21, 1969, and he was murdered on a cold, sunny afternoon - December 14, 1989. Shane had stopped to defend a young girl who was being physically assaulted by a gang member, when a second gang member attacked Shane from behind, rupturing a main artery in the back of his head. I am told people who do what Shane did are called “the peacemaker”, and they are ofter killed in the process. The girl Shane had stepped-in to defend was released from the first gang member’s hold, and ran to safety. While Shane was being murdered by the gang members other stood by and watched it happen.

I describe how the police had both “offenders” in custody by the end of that first night, yet our town’s police department did not represent my son’s rights, and did not support me in my efforts to get justice for Shane. There was no trial for these offenders, as they were “allowed” to plea bargain down from murder even though they both had previous criminal records – though murdering Shane was their first “murder” offense.

Because I know I am not the only parent in the situation I was in, I started from the beginning of Shane’s life to help readers understand the kind of person he was, and I have included police records, a detectives records, news paper articles, and coroner’s reports in this book to show the truth of this nightmare.

Though this book is expensive because it contains full color photographs, and police documents, I am making the book available at a discount price for a short time to make it more affordable for POMC members through the Internet site: and enter the Code: FSC69HNS. This special offer is valid through December 1, 2017. Any feed-back you would like to give about this book is welcome, and if you wish to send a quote I can use in my advertisement you can send it to my email address:
My best wishes to all,
Thank you,
Lois (Louise) Ward


For our “Holiday Memorial on December 5th, if we do not have a picture of your loved one already, please mail or e-mail it to: Pat Schwiebert at 2116 N. E. 18th Street, Portland . OR 97212. Her e-mail is: Pat needs the pictures as soon as possible so she can include them in our slide show. Your loved one’s name will be read out loud even if we do not have a picture on our board.

We are so grateful to Pat and her family at “The Peace House”, where we hold our meetings. They spend hours decorating their home so it is beautiful for our holiday memorial. For many, this time is the most special day they have during the holiday season since the murder of their loved one. It is a safe place to be.

Thank You


On behalf of the Greater Portland Area Chapter of Parents of Murdered Children, I would like to express our deepest appreciation to all of the generous people who have donated to the building of our addition memorial wall. We have a beautiful POMC Memorial now and families and friends from all over Oregon and Washington come to honor the memory of their loved ones who were so brutally taken from them. Sadly to say, our wall is completely filled. We have 500 names engraved on it.

What we are planning to do when we have enough funds is to build an additional wall that will hold 1000 more names. We have so many families who are waiting to add their loved ones’ name. It means so much to them because one of our greatest fears as a co-victims of homicide is that our loved one will not be remembered. They did not get to live the life they were suppose to. Some of the names on our wall belong to little babies to any age of adult. As co-victims, we have all suffered the same loss, the loss of a loved one to homicide. Our lives were completely changed. Homicide cannot be resolved.

What is also important is that we also educate the public when people come to see our wall. Murder can happen to any family. If people see the amount of people who are murdered, they will realize how important protection of society truly is. We need a justice system that works and laws for the protection of society. At POMC, we wish that people would never need our services. Sadly to say, we are getting more calls each day.

Co-victims of homicide need the peace and tranquility we are able to achieve at our POMC Memorial Wall. We are surrounded by beautiful sequoia trees, running water from the memorial, flowers, verses engraved on the stones that stand tall by the wall and a serenity that gives them hope and a place to gather and see that they are not alone.
We again ask for your help and thank those who have been so generous to our cause. If you would like to help, please go to the website of “Go Fund Me” and look under “POMC Memorial Wall”. All donations are appreciated and tax deductible. So many of our members are waiting to add their loved one’s name to the wall. Oregon has the largest POMC Memorial in the United States. Thank you for your help.


Funding for our new POMC Oregon/Washington Wall officially began this January, 2015. Members and friends of our chapter have been generous with donations and we are so thankful. Many of our new members are waiting for their loved ones names to be put on our new wall. We are listing new names that will be engraved when the wall is completed. We ask that members will call us, e-mail, or mail the information if you do not see your loved ones name on the list. The phone number is 503-656-8039, the e-mail is: or POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road.

We are designing the wall now and hoping to build a wall that will accommodate more names than the existing wall. We want to list all of our loved ones

If any of our members work at a company or know of anyone who would like to make a donation please let us know or it is fine for you to ask for a donation yourself. We are a non-profit organization. Donations are tax deductible. Please use the phone contact numbers from the first paragraph of this article. Thank you so much for your support.


Aisha Kathleen Zughbieh-Collins
Amber Rhiannon Adams
Anthony Branch Jr.
Ashley Benson
Austin Joe Hrynko
Benjamin Redmond
Billy Gianella
Braylon Michael Duguay
Brian Romo
Brian Elton Spaulding
Charlie Peralta
Cheritee Yvonne Vance
Cheryl Elizabeth Hart
Christopher James Loftus
Coltin Jacob Salsbury
Coulton McComb-Buehler
Craig C. Moritz Jr.
Dale Archie Brown
Daniel Guerin
David G. Swapp Jr.
David Rothrock
Dean Anthony Kuntz
Devan Chanel Schmidt
Diego Aguilar
Douglas Oliver Benton
Glen Edward Drysdale
Harold Sloan Blanchard
Izaak Gillen
Jared Stout
Jason Michael Ell
Jason Dale Johnson
Jason Scott Williams
Jayme Sue Austin
Jeffery Ray Brown
Jeffrey Towers
Jessica Lynn Clark
Jodi Marie Brewer
Joseph Ben Peterson
Julio Cesar Marquez Jr.
Kathleen Lois Bauman
Kaylee Anne Sawyer
Keith Ardell Benefield
Kenneth Dylan Lambert
Kenzie Rose La Buy
Krystal Jaye Mitchell
Kyle William Peckham
Laura Jean Bohlen
London Grey McCabe
Lori G. Billingsley
Marcos Juan Castillo
Molly Irene McCarter
Nicolas Lamont Lawson
Nicolette Naomi “Nikki” Elias
Paul W. Miller
Rachelle “Shelly” Law
Randall Leo Gettman
Raymond Lee Myers
Rebekah “Becky” Selegue Johnson
Ryan Robert Jones
Sahara Grace Dwight
Savannah Danielle Munden
Steve Leroy Johnson
Stuart M. Hess
Thomas James Fite
William Roland Hatch III
Windy Kim Kimball
Erin Kroeker
Braedon Anthony Kroeker
Leia Kroeker
Luke Aiden Kroeker
Ian Patrick McKay
Cody W. O’Brien
Judy D. Stanfill-Gourley
Raymond Charles Brandon

(Please contact us if your loved one’s name does not appear on this paper and you would like to have it added. A form will be added to our newsletter each month to be used for adding names for the wall when it is completed. Please check the spelling of your loved one’s name and let us know if it is wrong. You can e-mail us at, call 505-656-8039, or mail us at POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Rd., Oregon City, OR 97045.)




The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Beth Greear has created a facebook support group for POMC members. To reach it use: Beth said that there are several “admins” of the page so she is sure it will be very beneficial to anyone who would like to use it.

We cannot thank her enough for the chance to have even more support for our members. Beth is an outstanding person who is always there to reach out to help others. She even brought a delicious dessert for our December holiday meeting. We will be writing more on this next month and giving the names of other members who are helping with this project.


Unsolved Homicides ~ A CoVictims’ Worst Nightmare

The murder of a loved one is the most horrific thing a person can experience.  The only thing that can make it worse is a substandard initial investigation or not seeing justice in your case.  Timely collection of evidence followed by an arrest and conviction would provide a degree of comfort, but what happens to co-victims when a thorough investigation is not done, and there is no arrest?  Many of the victims' friends and acquaintances will gradually let go of their grief over time, but the closest of friends and family will remain in a state of sorrow, haunted by the injustice of investigators that may not have conformed to rules or standard operating procedures during their initial investigation.  Not only is there no relief, but the agony of the event changes their lives forever, and becomes part of their very being.  Co-victims' everyday battle becomes their effort to get a thorough investigation.

Helplessness is a gut-wrenching emotion which plagues co-victims who are not allowed to assist with the investigation and are longing for justice.  We don't want to let our loved one down; we are compelled to fight for justice no matter how long it takes.  As the process drags on, frustration grows.  Many times, due to confidentiality, important conversations between co-victims and law enforcement are avoided, and this lack of communication can cause co-victims to feel neglected and disrespected, which often manifests itself in frustration, anger, and a loss of confidence in the investigators. Regular contact and truthfulness are two of the most important things survivors need from law enforcement. We need investigators to focus on routine communication of as much information as possible with sensitivity and without being misleading. Survivors’ perception that information is not being shared with them can result in them feeling they have been secondarily victimized. As the years pass, co-victims start wondering if their unsolved homicide could be reviewed by a fresh set of eyes, and they often look into getting their case to a cold case unit, only to find out that some jurisdictions don't even have a cold case unit.   If there is a cold case unit in their jurisdiction, cases are evaluated and chosen according to a set of criteria.  Co-victims whose cases seem to be continuously passed over for review become dismayed and even angry toward law enforcement. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action, but uncontrolled anger can negatively affect personal or social well-being. 

Co-victims who put forth the effort to examine and understand the cold case process and various factors which must be dealt with during cold case investigations are able to put the process into perspective.  They must understand that cold cases are among the most difficult and frustrating cases for both co-victims and law enforcement, and not every case is chosen to be investigated.  It helps to review the following criteria checklist used by the National Sheriff’s Association, Justice Solutions and POMC: 

Complete an application for cold case review. This application includes detailed information regarding agency reports, victimology, suspects/persons of interest, timeline, coroner, lab reports, investigation documents, weapon descriptions and media releases.  

Co-victims should also be aware that closing rates can be more successful if investigators work only one or two cases at a time.  At this point, if we find out that our case doesn’t qualify for review by a cold case unit, our only hope is that a thorough re-investigation will be done by homicide investigators. 

If you have comments or questions about this article, please email: or call Pat Kuiper at 702-809-8654 to get your loved ones' name listed in our newsletter.  Feel free to contact Pat if you would like to share your story. 


Lucy Eilertson (1998)
Diana Moffitt (1987)
Donald James Brown (2007)
Kimberly Larson Reames (1983)
William (Bill) Mark Stratton (2005)


The Greater Portland Chapter is so proud of our member, Amanda Harris, for launching her official site for siblings. Amanda is offering the Website: so that sibling co-victims of homicide have a place to go where they will be understood and supported. This site will include video, chat, and telephone conference via a secure and private interface. Amanda is paying for the expenses and will be delighted to be another support for sibling co-victims. Amanda can also be reached at: or 623-866-3189.

Amanda Harris is now ready to start her web site for siblings. The Portland Chapter is excited about the support and understanding this new group will be for the many often overlooked survivors.


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Tacoma Violent Crime Victim Services Welcomes Homicide Survivors

Peer Support Group Meeting

If someone you love has been the victim of a homicide, we invite you to attend our monthly support group meeting. You will find acceptance, compassion and support.

Place: United Way Building

Date: 3rd Wednesday of Each Month!
Time: 7:30PM – 10:00PM

The United Way Building is located in Tacoma, at 1501 Pacific Avenue. This is the same building that the VCVS office is located in. It is next to Union Station on the north side. As you pass Union Station you will see the United Way Building. Parking is on the south side of the building. Please park your vehicle in an open space and enter the building’s front entrance and take the elevator to the third floor. The conference room is Suite 312. Please call Lew Cox for more information (253) 383-5254.

Court Watch

POMC'S Court Watch Program is designed to help families maneuver through the court system. Two of the most important aspects of Court Watch are the prevention of any re-victimization to family members, and the minimizing of the emotional pain of going through hearings and trials.

If you would like support from POMC during hearings and trials or want to offer assistance, call Pat Elmore at 503-312-5681 or Allen Tremain at 503-522- 0577.

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