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FEBRUARY MESSAGE FROM MARY:
VALENTINE’S DAY IS A PERFECT TIME TO CELEBRATE LOVE

February is the month we celebrate Valentine’s Day and for co-victims of homicide it can be a day to either reflect on our loss or on the most precious gift we can have or give, “love”. It is also a time we can discuss or reflect on what helps when someone we love has been cruelly taken from us. I will never forget the first years after the murder of my son. There were times I felt I could not even breathe. Other times, I would feel that it might have been better to never have loved than to lose someone who is more important than your own life. I was even afraid to love anyone else. What if someone else I loved was murdered or taken from me? The pain would be beyond words. What interested me before seemed gone and I knew that my life would never be the same. I couldn't escape the feeling that I may never \see my loved one again was always in my mind. Wouldn’t it be better if I just didn’t exist? It wasn’t that I wanted to commit suicide. I wanted to end the pain of a “broken heart”.

But, we are not given a choice. Beyond a doubt, we have learned how important a loved one can be. We know the price we pay for love. We also know that love is what makes us happy. It completes our life. Others depend on us and need us as we need them. If we gave up one love, what would they do? They too are hurting. We all need to allow ourselves time to grieve. We need love more than ever before to get to a “new normal”.

POMC and other support groups are the start of not feeling alone. Thousands of people have been in our shoes. If you read our newsletter, you will see the names of other members’ loved ones who were murdered. You will see the names of more than one member of a family murdered at the same time. How can this be? No matter how many murders we hear or read about, we will never be able to understand how anyone can commit such horrid crimes. Yet, they do and there may be no warning.

People who murder can easily deceive. They know what they are doing and lying comes easy to them. A psychopath is a person with an antisocial personality manifested in aggressive, perverted, criminal, or amoral behavior without empathy. In talking with experts in the field, these people can take on any role they think you might want. They can be charming or they can scare you. Most of us do not know what they are capable of doing. It is too late when we find out. Because we would never do such a thing, it is hard to believe that anyone is capable of such unthinkable behavior. This is another part of losing a loved one to homicide. Whom can we trust? I think that is one thing that we learn from all of this. When someone is psychopathic, we will find that we get an unsettling feeling. Things won’t seem right.

This is actually a gift we learn from the worst thing that ever happened to us. What we do not want to do though is to make us lose faith in others. We will find that there are more good people than evil. I have talked to people who had a psychopath in their family and they were able to feel that they were deceitful even when they were a young child. Yet, it is at our own support group that I have seen the best in people. Their priorities are in the right place. Even though members have suffered the worst type of loss, they are the first to reach out to help others who need help.

In talking to POMC members, most of them say that helping others and being helped by those who understood was what helped them the most. It was the reaching out, even though their own heart was broken, that helped them heal. POMC members form a special bond and love for one another. This love can be felt at our monthly meetings and is evident by the smiles and hugs that are given out at meetings.
After a homicide, co-victims began to soften their pain when they let love into their lives again. Though this hard to do, we all need love in order to survive and have a purpose in our lives. Max Cleland, a disabled veteran and a United States Senator, made the following statement. “In the service of love only broken hearts will do.” He could not be more right. It is in the service of love for co-victims of homicide that the broken-hearted survivors go on the help those who are now “in their shoes”. It is there that I see new co-victims find hope and love. For those who cannot come to the meetings, please know that we appreciate articles you would like to be published in the newsletter or things you have found that help you on this journey to find “a new normal”.

May there always be “love” in your life,

Mary Elledge


MEMORIAL DONATIONS FOR NEW WALL

JOHN S. AND MARLENE Y.
DEBRA K. O.
WILLIAM AND DIANE M. P.
MARVIA C. S. AND JEFFERY J. C.
PORT OF PORTLAND POLICE EMPLOYEES


ITALIAN CHEF ROBERT PFEIFER IS COOKING AGAIN FOR A FUNDRAISER FOR OUR NEW MEMORIAL WALL

The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Robert Pfeifer will be the chef for our “Spaghetti Dinner Fund Raiser” for the New POMC Memorial Wall. It will be held on Saturday, March 21, 2015. The location is at the American Legion Hall, Post 1 at 1830 S. E. 122nd, Portland, OR.

Price for the tickets are $8.00 for adults and $5.00 for children. You can preorder tickets by mailing to: POMC, Mary Elledge, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR 97045. You can also buy tickets at our meetings or at the door the night of the dinner. We are offering spaghetti dinner, salad, French bread, and dessert. Alcoholic beverages can be bought at the bar.

Chef Pfeifer puts on an outstanding dinner and we are hoping that we will have a big turnout. The public is invited as well. This would be a great time to treat family and friends for a night of fun and support for our “New Memorial Wall”. Thank you so much.

We are also going to be having a raffle and would appreciate if any of our members would like to donate items for it. You can bring them to the POMC meetings or before the dinner starts. All of the proceeds go the building of our wall.


BETH GREEAR PUTS SUPPORT GROUP FOR POMC MEMBERS ON FACEBOOK

The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Beth Greear has created a facebook support group for POMC members. To reach it use: www.facebook.com/groups/POMC.Portlalnd. Vancouver/ Beth said that there are several “admins” of the page so she is sure it will be very beneficial to anyone who would like to use it.

We cannot thank her enough for the chance to have even more support for our members. Beth is an outstanding person who is always there to reach out to help others. She even brought a delicious dessert for our December holiday meeting. We will be writing more on this next month and giving the names of other members who are helping with this project.


THE GREATER PORTLAND CHAPTER
WAS HONORED TO SHARE OUR MEMORIAL WALL
FOR RHONDA CASE’S BELOVED SON, LEWIS

It was truly an honor to share our Memorial Wall with the family of Rhonda Case to hold a memorial service for her beloved son. Lewis. Rhonda has dedicated her life to helping end sexual and gender-based violence. She works endlessly to help educate the public on domestic abuse. It is her hard work and dedication that keeps her members from having to be members of Parents Of Murdered Children.

What is wonderful about both of our groups is that we can work together to help eradicate domestic abuse and save the lives of so many. As a society, we must speak out and provide help and support for those living in situations where their mental and physical safety is at risk. Our POMC Memorial is truly doing what we hoped it would do.

Again, we would like to thank all of the people who helped us get the Memorial Wall in Oregon City. It has taken all of us to do it. Every donation, in-kind donation, and act of support helped us along the way. We are now fundraising to build another wall as our current wall is completed. (500 names)


THE POMC MEMORIAL GARDEN
THE PERFECT PLACE FOR MY SON’S MEMORIAL GATHERING
by Rhonda Case

In November 2012, I wrote a blog piece for the Spiritual Alliance Against Intimate Violence about the dedication of the Memorial Garden at Mountain View Cemetery in Oregon City. As an advocate and educator in the movement to end violence against women and children, I was moved by what POMC President, Mary Elledge, shared with me: fully one quarter of the murder victims represented on the memorial wall were victims of domestic violence. My work with SAIV and then with “We Will Speak Out” (a campaign to encourage communities of faith to join the movement to end sexual and gender-based violence) was inspired by sad, lived experience. My son, Louis, was proud of me for my work and he had given me permission from the beginning to share the fact that he was a survivor of traumatic early childhood abuse. In fact, Louis had inspired me to begin speaking out about our story by writing a research paper for his seventh grade English class which began, “I am a survivor of child abuse.”

Louis left this world on December 4, 2014. He was just seventeen years old. Still in mourning over my mother’s death the month before, I couldn’t bring myself at first to think about planning another funeral. But on the 10th of December, I called Mary Elledge and said, “I think Louis wants me to offer his friends a chance to celebrate his life and to honor his memory, especially with Christmas so near. I think that the Memorial Garden would be ideal.” And it was.

Over eighty of us gathered there on 12-13-14. The sun came out and shone radiantly on us after weeks of rain and cold. Under the majestic redwood, we set up a table with candles and photos. We used one of Louis’ music stands for a podium and his music teacher lent us the microphone, speaker and other equipment so that music could be as much a part of Louis’ memorial as it had been of his life. Social media let us spread the word quickly and the service was all the more beautiful for being informal. Louis’ soul friend, Shea Mackinnon, played one of Lou’s original songs, “Free as the Sun.” Peter McCoid played “Waterfall” and our tears flowed freely — mirror of what the memorial fountain symbolizes — Water of life and of sorrow. The Garden provided us all the elements for a gathering of Love that none of us will ever forget. Fire of the candles and warmth of the Sun. Earth from which the beautiful trees reach for the Air in which our breath and our spirits mingle. A circle - unbroken - in which to gather and to which we can return now anytime to recreate the Love we felt there when we all repeated together, “And may his memory be a blessing.”

Please recommend the Memorial Garden to your family and friends as the perfect, peaceful place in which to hold a celebration of life, death and rebirth. Consider making a contribution to POMC or to the special memorial fund established in Louis’ honor by “We Will Speak Out.” Choose “WWSO Oregon” in the dropdown menu under donate. And please ask your faith community to take part in “Speak Out Sunday” in 2015 by speaking out against intimate violence. Let the memory of all victims of intimate violence inspire us to work for peace in our families and in our world.

FREE AS THE SUN (words/music by Louis)

Pick up the piece of your past,
it's time to move on.
Finally happy at last as I write this song
I see the world like it's all I have left in my hands
I'll live up to none but my own selfish demands.

And now I am, now I am
Free as the sun

Pick up the peace of your past
Yeah, it’s time to move on
I thought I was happy at last, then I sang this song.
Look at this world, it's broken beyond repair.
Everyone harbors their own brand of self-despair
But now I am, I always was
Free as the sun

Now I can see why you've done all these things that you've done (x3)
But now I am, I always was,
Free as a son.

Rhonda Lee Case
Co-Coordinator, “We Will Speak Out” Oregon
A project of IMA World Health and Ecumenical Ministries of Oregon Portland Liaison for the Spiritual Alliance to Stop Intimate Violence
rhondaleecase4saiv@gmail.com


A CHANCE TO LEARN FROM OTHERS

POMC CHAPTERS CAN JOIN TOGETHER
TO MAKE THE 2015 CONFERENCE A GREAT SUCCESS

The Greater Portland Area Chapter would like to challenge all of the POMC Chapters to see who can get the most members to attend the 2015 POMC National Conference in Las Vegas on July 30 to August 2, 2015. National Office is offering a $150.00 gift certificate to the chapter who has the most members in attendance. This will be a perfect time for all POMC members to be able to attend because flights are less expensive flying to Las Vegas than only one other destination in the United States.

We will be staying at the JW Marriott Las Vegas Resort and Spa. The resort has given us a special price of $99.00 per night. The rooms are deluxe with wonderful views and tech amenities. There is only a $25.00 fee each way to the airport. If you are planning to attend, we recommend that you make reservations. The numbers at the hotel are 877-622-3140 or 800-582-2996. Please ask for group reservations for Parents Of Murdered Children. This is important because in order to get the special price for your room, you must mention POMC. If you put your reservation on your credit card, you have 24 hours before your room is available to cancel and get your deposit refunded. There will be only so many rooms available.

Registrations are $240.00 which includes meals. There will be a hospitality room and workshops that will provide outstanding presenters to provide the latest in help and information for professional and co-victims of homicide. There also will be speakers and entertainment.

Chapters will be able to reserve tables for meals so it will also be a wonderful time for the larger chapters to see members they might not have seen for years. It is an opportunity to be with people who understand and a chance to learn what other states and the justice system are doing for co-victims of homicide.

The Marriott is off the strip so it will be a peaceful place to also relax. There are shuttles for those who will like to go the Los Vegas Strip, malls, museums, Hoover Dam, and many other attractions. Of course, shopping is readily available. Your conference can also be a vacation time. We are given the special room price, $99.00, for three days before and three days after the conference.

The conference committee is working hard to make this 2015 conference a place that fits the needs and supports all who attend. It should be a positive experience for all. Look for you there…

Mary Elledge, Chapter Leader
Greater Portland Area Chapter


POMC CHAPTERS CAN JOIN TOGETHER TO MAKE THE 2015 CONFERENCE A GREAT SUCCESS

The Greater Portland Area Chapter would like to challenge all of the POMC Chapters to see who can get the most members to attend the 2015 POMC National Conference in Las Vegas on July 30 to August 2. National Office is offering a $150.00 gift certificate to the chapter who has the most members in attendance. With the conference in Las Vegas, flights are less expensive than most other destinations.

We will be staying at the JW Marriott Las Vegas Resort and Spa. The resort has given us a special price of $99.00 per night. The rooms are deluxe with wonderful views and tech amenities. There is only a $25.00 fee each way to the airport. If you are planning to attend, we recommend that you make reservations. The number at the hotel is 702-869-777. Please ask for group reservations for Parents Of Murdered Children. This is important because in order to get the special price for your room, you must mention POMC. If you put your reservation on your credit card, you have 24 hours before your room is available to cancel and get your deposit refunded. There will be only so many rooms available.

Registrations are $240.00 which includes meals. There will be a hospitality room and workshops that will provide outstanding presenters to provide the latest in help and information for professional and co-victims of homicide. There also will be speakers and entertainment.

Chapters will be able to reserve tables for meals so it will also be a wonderful time for the larger chapters to see members they might not have seen for years. It is an opportunity to be with people who understand and a chance to learn what other states and the justice system are doing for co-victims of homicide.

The Marriott is off the strip so it will be a peaceful place to also relax. There are shuttles for those who will like to go the Los Vegas Strip, malls, museums, Hoover Dam, and many other attractions. Of course, shopping is readily available. Your conference can also be a vacation time. We are given the special room price for three days before and three days after the conference.

The conference committee is working hard to make this 2015 conference a place that fits the needs and supports all who attend. It should be a positive experience for all. Look for you there……..

The Greater Portland Area Chapter is sponsoring the Memorial Night on Friday. We are hoping to do this as a team and make it a night for all to remember. We look forward for any help from members in the Portland Chapter who are planning to attend. It will be so good for all of us to be together. It is also a chance for Oregon and Washington members to meet their fellow Oregon and Washington POMC members besides all of the other chapter members. I personally have never met such wonderful members in my entire life.


FUNDING FOR THE NEW
MEMORIAL WALL IS READY TO GO

Funding for our new POMC Oregon and Washington Wall will officially begin this January, 2015. Members and friends of our chapter have already been generous with donations and we are so thankful. We are starting this month to list new names that will be engraved when the wall is completed. We ask that members call us, e-mail, or mail the information if you do not see your loved ones name on the list. The phone number is 503-656-8039, the e-mail is elledge1@gmail .com, or POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR, 97045.

We have already begun to look at designs for the wall. It is our hope to build a wall that will hold 1,000 names. This new wall will complement our existing wall and be an extension of the present wall. The existing wall holds 500 names.

If any of our members work at a company or know of anyone who would like to make a donation, please let us know. We are non-profit organization. Donations are tax deductible. Please use the phone contact numbers from the first paragraph of this article. Thank you so much for your support.

LIST OF NAMES TO BE ENGRAVED ON THE NEW MEMORIAL WALL UPON COMPLETION

(Please contact us if your loved one’s name does not appear on this paper and you would like to have it added. A form will be added to our newsletter each month to be used for adding names for our new wall when it is completed.) Please check the spelling of your loved one’s name and let us know if it is wrong.)

Mandie Vankeirsblick
Dennis Dean Scharf
Jeffery Towers
Carol Lynne Keightley
Kathleen Lois Bauman
Julio Cesar Marquev
Craig C Moritz
Victor “Todd” Howell
Deanna Joy Custer
Melinda Kay Custer
Paul W. Miller
Nicolette Naomi Elias
London McCabe


PLEASE KEEP THE NATIONAL 2015
CONFERENCE ON YOUR CALENDAR :
JULY30—AUGUST 2, 2015

The Greater Portland Area Chapter has been very excited to hear from so many of our members who are planning to go to the 2015 National POMC Conference in Las Vegas on July 30 to August 2. One of the members who called had not been to one in 20 years. This is a perfect time for Oregon and Washington because flights are less expensive to Las Vegas than almost any other state. We will be staying at the JW Marriott Las Vegas Resort and Spa. The resort has given us a special price of $99.00 per night. The rooms are deluxe with wonderful views and tech amenities. There is a $25.00 fee each way from the airport.

Meals will be included in the registration price and the Portland Chapter will be reserving tables so we can sit together. Our chapter is also going to be responsible for helping put on the Memorial Friday night. It will be wonderful to have a large representation from Oregon and Washington. In keeping up with the other National Conferences, we hope that it will be a special memorial for all who attend.

We will be keeping you up dated each month. Please let us know whenever you might find out that you are able to attend. We want to have plenty of table space. You can call 503-656-8039 or e-mail elledge1@gmail.com or write POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR 97045.



DOVE ORNAMENTS ON OUR 2014 HOLIDAY TREE

There are nearly seventy-five doves on our holiday tree;
They are so beautiful for you and me to see.

The dove has been a symbol of love and hope;
Without these emotions,
It would be impossible to cope.

Inside of each beautiful dove is a hanging heart;
Spiritually, we will never be apart.

The heart is a reminder
That our loved ones are always near;
They will never be forgotten
And that is something we don’t have to fear.

Mother and father doves share the responsibility
Of caring for their young;
They are more like humans
And being together is always more fun.

When doves have their children, they hover above;
Like all of us, this is how we show our love.

There could not be a better ornament
To hang on our holiday tree;
Doves are a symbol of love and bonding for you and me.

Tonight we will celebrate this season together;
Knowing that we all understand,
Gets us through this stormy weather.

We will call on happier holiday memories
To help us through this season;
It is loving and remembering our loved ones
That softens our pain and that gives us some reasons.

May the love for those not with us on this earth
Fill the emptiness that we feel;
And may this holiday time,
Be the time that this love helps us all to heal.

Mary Elledge


THE FAMILY OF SHELLEY DAWN
ELKINS HELPS KEEP MURDERER IN PRISON

Shelley Dawn Elkins, born on May 31, 1968, was a beautiful twenty year old woman who had loving parents, Nina and Don Elkins, and a devoted loving sister, Sharon Christensen. Shelley was engaged and was living in own home with her fiancé when she was murdered on May 31, 1989.

Dail Ryan Yates waited for her fiancé, his cousin, to go to work early in the morning when he decided to murder Shelley. He strangled her. He showed no remorse. In fact, six months earlier he shot and killed a man in Estacada, Oregon. He was charged with the man’s murder and kept in jail until his trial. Unfortunately, he was found not guilty. He had claimed self-defense. It was less than a month later, that he murdered Shelley. For a family, it is unbearable to think that if justice had been handed out their daughter might not have been murdered.

After the murder of Shelley, Yates was found guilty and given life with the minimum of 25 years. On February 18, 2014, he was given a parole exit hearing. He had served his twenty-five years.

Shelley’s sister, Sharon, spent hours contacting people to write letters against Dail’s release and working with Victims Specialist Attorney Rosemary Brewer to get information and evidence that Dail Yates was a risk to society if he were let out. Ms. Brewer is an excellent attorney who is well prepared to assist victims trying to keep a murderer behind bars when they are likely to commit a crime again. Again, Mr. Yates was not sorry he murdered Shelley.

The Parole Board listened to both sides and ruled that Dail Ryan Yates should serve four more years. Many letters against his release were mailed in and eleven people were there to support Shelley’s memory. Ms. Brewer proved he was a risk. Shelley’s sister Sharon spoke as well.

As a chapter, we are proud of the Elkins family and all of those who helped keep a murderer in prison longer to protect society. We also offer the Elkins’ family our deepest sympathy and support. Your daughter Shelley would be proud. Your actions are protecting society. Shelley is and will always be remembered. We would also like to thank Rosemary Brewer for an excellent job as well as the Board of Parole and Debbie Wojciechowski, Victim Specialist . Debbie is excellent in helping co-victims of homicide go through the painful experience of revisiting the murder of their loved one.

Mary Elledge


LIVING WITHOUT JUSTICE

Unsolved Homicides ~ A CoVictims’ Worst Nightmare

The murder of a loved one is the most horrific thing a person can experience.  The only thing that can make it worse is a substandard initial investigation or not seeing justice in your case.  Timely collection of evidence followed by an arrest and conviction would provide a degree of comfort, but what happens to co-victims when a thorough investigation is not done, and there is no arrest?  Many of the victims' friends and acquaintances will gradually let go of their grief over time, but the closest of friends and family will remain in a state of sorrow, haunted by the injustice of investigators that may not have conformed to rules or standard operating procedures during their initial investigation.  Not only is there no relief, but the agony of the event changes their lives forever, and becomes part of their very being.  Co-victims' everyday battle becomes their effort to get a thorough investigation.

Helplessness is a gut-wrenching emotion which plagues co-victims who are not allowed to assist with the investigation and are longing for justice.  We don't want to let our loved one down; we are compelled to fight for justice no matter how long it takes.  As the process drags on, frustration grows.  Many times, due to confidentiality, important conversations between co-victims and law enforcement are avoided, and this lack of communication can cause co-victims to feel neglected and disrespected, which often manifests itself in frustration, anger, and a loss of confidence in the investigators. Regular contact and truthfulness are two of the most important things survivors need from law enforcement. We need investigators to focus on routine communication of as much information as possible with sensitivity and without being misleading. Survivors’ perception that information is not being shared with them can result in them feeling they have been secondarily victimized. As the years pass, co-victims start wondering if their unsolved homicide could be reviewed by a fresh set of eyes, and they often look into getting their case to a cold case unit, only to find out that some jurisdictions don't even have a cold case unit.   If there is a cold case unit in their jurisdiction, cases are evaluated and chosen according to a set of criteria.  Co-victims whose cases seem to be continuously passed over for review become dismayed and even angry toward law enforcement. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action, but uncontrolled anger can negatively affect personal or social well-being. 

Co-victims who put forth the effort to examine and understand the cold case process and various factors which must be dealt with during cold case investigations are able to put the process into perspective.  They must understand that cold cases are among the most difficult and frustrating cases for both co-victims and law enforcement, and not every case is chosen to be investigated.  It helps to review the following criteria checklist used by the National Sheriff’s Association, Justice Solutions and POMC: 

Complete an application for cold case review. This application includes detailed information regarding agency reports, victimology, suspects/persons of interest, timeline, coroner, lab reports, investigation documents, weapon descriptions and media releases.  

Co-victims should also be aware that closing rates can be more successful if investigators work only one or two cases at a time.  At this point, if we find out that our case doesn’t qualify for review by a cold case unit, our only hope is that a thorough re-investigation will be done by homicide investigators. 

If you have comments or questions about this article, please email: pat.kuiper@yahoo.com or call Pat Kuiper at 702-809-8654 to get your loved ones' name listed in our newsletter.  Feel free to contact Pat if you would like to share your story. 

UNSOLVED CASES

Lucy Eilertson (1998)
Diana Moffitt (1987)
Donald James Brown (2007)
Kimberly Larson Reames (1983)
William (Bill) Mark Stratton (2005)


SIBLING SITE IS LAUNCHED

The Greater Portland Chapter is so proud of our member, Amanda Harris, for launching her official site for siblings. Amanda is offering the Website: www.unitingsiblings.com so that sibling co-victims of homicide have a place to go where they will be understood and supported. This site will include video, chat, and telephone conference via a secure and private interface. Amanda is paying for the expenses and will be delighted to be another support for sibling co-victims. Amanda can also be reached at: Amanda@unitingsiblings.com or 623-866-3189.

Amanda Harris is now ready to start her web site for siblings. The Portland Chapter is excited about the support and understanding this new group will be for the many often overlooked survivors.


NATIONAL POMC SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER SUBSCRIPTION FORM

Please find, enclosed, $10.00 for my annual subscription (three issues) for the Survivors Newsletter.
(Please consider adding an extra subscription fee to help defray the cost for someone who cannot afford it.)

NAME: _____________________________________________________________________________

ADDRESS: __________________________________________________________________________

CITY, STATE, ZIP____________________________________________________________________

MAIL TO: POMC, INC. ENCLOSED IS MY: CHECK _________________

100 E. EIGHTH STREET, B-41 MONEY ORDER__________

CINCINATTI, OH 54202

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PERMISSION FOR ENGRAVING OF NAMES FOR POMC’S OREGON/WASHINGTON MEMORIAL WALL

PRINTED NAME OF LOVED ONE_________________________________________ (This will be engraved on the wall)

LOVED ONE’S BIRTHDATE____________________________ DEATH DATE____________________________

MEMBER/FRIEND’S NAME AND ADDRESS ____________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________________________________________

MEMBER/FRIEND’S PHONE NUMBER_____________________________ Do you want a Newsletter? Yes No

SIGNATURE FOR PERMISSION TO
ENGRAVE NAME AND SPELLING APPROVAL_________________________________________________________

Please submit one form for each loved one. Please make efforts with other family members/friends to ensure multiple requests are not received for the same name. When completed, please mail, fax, or e-mail to the following places: POMC, Mary Elledge, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR 97045 or fax 503-656-4420, or e-mail: elledge1@email.com. If you have any questions, please call 503-656-8039.

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Oregon-Washington Public Memorial Garden
Remembering Those We Have Lost to Murder
CONTRIBUTION OR PLEDGE FORM

Please Complete and Return to Memorial Garden,
POMC 14427 S. Forsythe Rd Oregon City, OR 97045

100% of Contributions are Tax Deductible

Name:____________________________________________ phone: __________________________

Address:_____________________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________________________________

E-MAIL: ___________________________________________________

Options :

Gift in Memory of: __________________________________________________________

Anonymous gift (will not be recognized at the Memorial Garden or in published materials)

Method of Payment:

Check Enclosed

Credit Card #_________________________________________Exp Date:___________

Name on Card _________________________________________________________________

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Pledged Payment (to be completed by December 31, 2014)
Please add notes on payment timing _________________________________________

Thank you for helping to create the Oregon-Washington Public Memorial Garden. Your generosity will never be forgotten.

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More than Just a Name: Placing a Face on Grief

We would like to get to know your loved one and gain and understanding of their lives, achievements, accomplishments, goals, and personalities. We’d like to celebrate the LIFE of our loved ones rather than remain in the pain of their death. If you would like to share a unique story about your loved one, please submit a short (1 page) letter telling us about them. Some possible ideas to include are:

    Their favorite food, movie, book, and why
    Their most successful accomplishment
    A funny childhood story/experience
    Their most exciting vacation
    A unique talent
    Their most prized possession
    Their favorite school subject or teacher
    Their educational/professional goals
    A personal goal they planned to fulfill
    An obstacle they overcame
    A school play they may have performed in
    Their favorite season/holiday

Please include your contact information as well as their full name and birth date. Thank you.

Please also include a picture of your loved one, if possible. Please keep in mind that we cannot guarantee that your photograph will be returned to you.

Please mail submissions to:
Portland Area Chapter
Parents Of Murdered Children
And Other Survivors Of Homicide Victims
14427 S. Forsythe Road
Oregon City, OR 97045


Tacoma Violent Crime Victim Services Welcomes Homicide Survivors

Peer Support Group Meeting

If someone you love has been the victim of a homicide, we invite you to attend our monthly support group meeting. You will find acceptance, compassion and support.

Place: United Way Building
3rd FLOOR CONFERENCE ROOM

Date: 3rd Wednesday of Each Month!
Time: 7:30PM – 10:00PM

The United Way Building is located in Tacoma, at 1501 Pacific Avenue. This is the same building that the VCVS office is located in. It is next to Union Station on the north side. As you pass Union Station you will see the United Way Building. Parking is on the south side of the building. Please park your vehicle in an open space and enter the building’s front entrance and take the elevator to the third floor. The conference room is Suite 312. Please call Lew Cox for more information (253) 383-5254.


Court Watch

POMC'S Court Watch Program is designed to help families maneuver through the court system. Two of the most important aspects of Court Watch are the prevention of any re-victimization to family members, and the minimizing of the emotional pain of going through hearings and trials.

If you would like support from POMC during hearings and trials or want to offer assistance, call Pat Elmore at 503-312-5681 or Allen Tremain at 503-522- 0577.


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