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JULY, 2017 - MESSAGE FROM MARY
AS CO-VICTIMS OF HOMICIDE,
WE HONOR THE HEROES OF THE MAX STABBINGS.

No one knows the horror of having a loved one murdered more than the members of Parents of Murdered Children. Each of our members has lost a loved one at the hands of another person.

What could be more appropriate than honoring our latest heroes from the stabbings on the MAX train in Northeast Portland? This Fourth of July is a perfect time to remember these brave men and how important it is for us to remember during this time when hate and violence is heard about on a daily bases in our media. It restores our faith in humankind. This month is a perfect time to reflect on the goodness of the many heroes who step up to help others at the risk of losing their own lives. It gives us even more to celebrate on the Fourth of July.

The 2017 Portland train attack occurred on May 26, 2017 when Jeremy Joseph Christian fatally allegedly stabbed two men and injured a third on a MAX Light Rail train after they tried to get him to stop yelling hate speech toward a variety of ethnicities and religions. At the time the attack occurred, the train car was crowded and all the seats filled with some passengers standing. Christian continued ranting so the train operator got on the loudspeaker and asked if whoever was causing the disturbance to exit the train immediately. Sadly, Jeremy Christian continued to rage and then directed his rage at a young seventeen year old woman who was wearing a hijab and her non-Muslim friend, a black girl, age sixteen. He yelled out “Muslims should die” as well as other senseless slurs. Being afraid, the girls moved to the back of the train.

Three men, Ricky John Best, Taliesin Myrddin Namkai-Meche, and Micah David-Col Fletcher, stepped in to help and de-escalate the situation. Namkai-Meche, according to a witness, told Christian, “You need to get off the train.” The tree men tried to form a barrier between Christian and the girls. One of the men gave him a “nudge” to move him away. Christian then said, “Touch me again, or I’m going to kill you.” Christian then fatally stabbed Best and Namkai-Meeche and injured Fletcher. The girls fled the rain after the incident. Other passengers gave first aid to the injured men until EMS arrived. Christian fled the train after the stabbing. Other passengers who called 911 chased him. Police arrived at the station and then arrested Christian running along the freeway.

At Christian’s arraignment, he showed no remorse and yelled slogans as he entered the courtroom. He was charged with aggravated murder, attempted murder, assault, menacing, intimidation, and unlawful use of a weapon. According to “the Portland Mercury,” Christian was a known right wing and white supremacist. However, he deserves “not to be remembered.” It is people like him who destroy others rights and leaves heartache and destruction to those who are left behind.

What we want can do and people from around the world can do is speak out about people who deny other people their rights. The three men who were stabbed were honored nationally and internationally. From this horrid crime, we have heroes. The three men who stood up to Christian are three of the finest people one could ever know. Ricky John Best was 53 years old, the father of four children, and a technician for the City of Portland’s Bureau of Development Services, an army veteran, and a person who someone could depend on if they needed anything.

Namkai Meche was a 2016 graduate of Reed College in Portland who majored in economics. He was thoughtful, humble, inquisitive, and compassionate according to a statement from Reed College. His sister said, “My brother lived a joyous and full life.” He was resolute in his conduct and respect of all people. In his final act of bravery, he held true to what he believed is the way forward.”

Fletcher was a student at Portland State University and an aspiring poet whose poems often focus on social justice issues, including the racism directed at Muslims. All three is these men are heroes. The world is a better place because of their actions.

The men on the MAX who helped chase after Christian also were heroes. The Portland Police were at their best as well as the first responders. Finally, it has been inspiring to hear of the contributions that have been coming in to the victims of this hate crime. People from around the world have sent in money to help the families whose loved ones were murdered or injured. The caring and speaking out against this kind of violence has been overwhelming. This is what makes our county great when we speak out against violence and that there is no tolerance for murder and prejudice. Murder leaves an emptiness that cannot be filled. As a chapter, we want to thank all those who help or have helped someone when someone they love has been murdered or injured. It does make a difference.

The Greater Portland Area Chapter will be contacting the families of the murder victims of this crime to see if they would like to have their loved ones names on or Memorial Wall. They will join the names of our loved ones and names of police officers in Oregon and Washington who have died in the line of duty for Oregon and Washington. Their names will be read aloud each year at our “National Day of Remembrance.” They are our heroes!

All my love, Mary Elledge


THANK YOU, MT. VIEW CEMETERY FOR PUTTING ON A MEMORIAL DAY PROGRAM

The Greater Portland Area Chapter (POMC) would like to thank the City of Oregon City and Mt. View Cemetery for allowing our chapter to participate with them in the Memorial Day service held on May 29, 2017. As usual, the cemetery looked beautiful, the set up was great, and the refreshments were excellent. It is an honor for our chapter to be located at Mt. View Cemetery. We were proud to be able to present flowers with the other groups in honor of all the men and women who gave their lives in order to keep our country safe. Two of our members, Allen Tremain and Jessica Collins, presented flowers when POMC’s name was announced.

We would like to thank Pat Kuiper for the great pictures in our newsletter this month for Memorial Day. Members in the pictures are Bob Pfeifer, Joy Pfeifer-Duncan, Jessica Collins, Allen Tremain, Pat Kuiper, Mary Elledge, and Bob Elledge. We would also like to thank all of the other members who attended.



Parents Of Murdered Children National Conference

August 3 - 6, 2017
Hilton Irvine/Orange County Airport Hotel
18800 Mac Arthur Boulevard
Irvine, California, 92612

Join POMC for our 31st Annual National Conference in Irvine, California. We will offer workshops on various topics such as: Vicarious Trauma, Unsolved cases, Mothers, Fathers & Sibling Grief, Coping Skills and much more as well as workshops presented by various professionals from Victims Services, Legal Teams, Comfort Dogs Services, Detectives and more.

For more information on our 2017 conference and registration feel free to contact our National Office at natlpomc@pomc.org or by phone at (513) 721-5683. You can also find the 2017 POMC National Conference Registration and instructions on our website at www.pomc.org.


PLEASE HELP US SUPPORT A LONG TIME MEMBER WHOSE SECOND CHILD WAS ALSO MURDERED.

The Portland Chapter would like to ask members to please send a short note or card to Lois and Lewis Hess in memory of the murder of their second child, Carol Ann Hess, on 12/17/2016. Their son, Stuart Hess was murdered in 1975. Lois and Lewis are eighty-nine and ninety-two years old. It is beyond comprehension to lose more than one child and even harder when we become senior citizens. To make matters worse, their daughter was murdered by her adopted son.

Their address is Lois and Lewis Hess, 800 A, Southerly Rd., Apt. 1021, Towson, MD 21286-8436. Thank you, for your kindness. The Hess family lives so far from us. We appreciate your help.


SEPTEMBER 25, 2017 WILL BE OUR NATIONAL DAY OF REMEMBRANCE.
PLEASE MARK IT ON YOUR CALENDER!

Monday, September 25, 2017 will be the National Day of Remembrance for our chapter. It will be held at Mt. View Cemetery. The cemetery is located at 500 Hilda St., Oregon City, OR, 97045. The memorial will start at 1:00 p.m. We will have our program; guest speaker will be District Attorney Josh Marquis, the reading of all of our loved ones’ names, music, and a free barbeque.

We will have our picture board displayed. If your loved one’s name is not on it, please send us a 4”by 6” picture. If it is raining and windy, we will not be able to put the pictures out. Send the picture to Mary Elledge, 14427 S. Forsythe Rd., Oregon City, OR 97045.

If you would like to donate to helping buy food for our barbeque, please mail it to the above address as well. Thank you so much for any help you can do. We will have the new names engraved on a special paper to go along side of our wall until we can get our wall finished. It will be a beautiful day for all of us and a chance to meet new members. It is our biggest event.




INSTRUCTIONS FOR GETTING YOUR LOVED ONES’ PICTURE ON OUR MEMORIAL BOARD

For our “Holiday Memorial on December 5th, if we do not have a picture of your loved one already, please mail or e-mail it to: Pat Schwiebert at 2116 N. E. 18th Street, Portland . OR 97212. Her e-mail is: pat@tearsoup.com. Pat needs the pictures as soon as possible so she can include them in our slide show. Your loved one’s name will be read out loud even if we do not have a picture on our board.

We are so grateful to Pat and her family at “The Peace House”, where we hold our meetings. They spend hours decorating their home so it is beautiful for our holiday memorial. For many, this time is the most special day they have during the holiday season since the murder of their loved one. It is a safe place to be.

Thank You


INSTRUCTIONS FOR GETTING YOUR LOVED ONES’ PICTURE ON OUR MEMORIAL BOARD

For our “Holiday Memorial on December 5th, if we do not have a picture of your loved one already, please mail or e-mail it to: Pat Schwiebert at 2116 N. E. 18th Street, Portland . OR 97212. Her e-mail is: pat@tearsoup.com. Pat needs the pictures as soon as possible so she can include them in our slide show. Your loved one’s name will be read out loud even if we do not have a picture on our board.

We are so grateful to Pat and her family at “The Peace House”, where we hold our meetings. They spend hours decorating their home so it is beautiful for our holiday memorial. For many, this time is the most special day they have during the holiday season since the murder of their loved one. It is a safe place to be.

Thank You


POMC IS NOW RECEIVING DONATIONS
FROM GO FUND ME
OREGON POMC MEMORIAL WALL

On behalf of the Greater Portland Area Chapter of Parents of Murdered Children, I would like to express our deepest appreciation to all of the generous people who have donated to the building of our addition memorial wall. We have a beautiful POMC Memorial now and families and friends from all over Oregon and Washington come to honor the memory of their loved ones who were so brutally taken from them. Sadly to say, our wall is completely filled. We have 500 names engraved on it.

What we are planning to do when we have enough funds is to build an additional wall that will hold 1000 more names. We have so many families who are waiting to add their loved ones’ name. It means so much to them because one of our greatest fears as a co-victims of homicide is that our loved one will not be remembered. They did not get to live the life they were suppose to. Some of the names on our wall belong to little babies to any age of adult. As co-victims, we have all suffered the same loss, the loss of a loved one to homicide. Our lives were completely changed. Homicide cannot be resolved.

What is also important is that we also educate the public when people come to see our wall. Murder can happen to any family. If people see the amount of people who are murdered, they will realize how important protection of society truly is. We need a justice system that works and laws for the protection of society. At POMC, we wish that people would never need our services. Sadly to say, we are getting more calls each day.

Co-victims of homicide need the peace and tranquility we are able to achieve at our POMC Memorial Wall. We are surrounded by beautiful sequoia trees, running water from the memorial, flowers, verses engraved on the stones that stand tall by the wall and a serenity that gives them hope and a place to gather and see that they are not alone.
We again ask for your help and thank those who have been so generous to our cause. If you would like to help, please go to the website of “Go Fund Me” and look under “POMC Memorial Wall”. All donations are appreciated and tax deductible. So many of our members are waiting to add their loved one’s name to the wall. Oregon has the largest POMC Memorial in the United States. Thank you for your help.


FUNDING FOR THE NEW MEMORIAL WALL IS NOW IN FULL FORCE

Funding for our new POMC Oregon/Washington Wall officially began this January, 2015. Members and friends of our chapter have been generous with donations and we are so thankful. Many of our new members are waiting for their loved ones names to be put on our new wall. We are listing new names that will be engraved when the wall is completed. We ask that members will call us, e-mail, or mail the information if you do not see your loved ones name on the list. The phone number is 503-656-8039, the e-mail is: elledge1@gmail.com or POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road.

We are designing the wall now and hoping to build a wall that will accommodate more names than the existing wall. We want to list all of our loved ones

If any of our members work at a company or know of anyone who would like to make a donation please let us know or it is fine for you to ask for a donation yourself. We are a non-profit organization. Donations are tax deductible. Please use the phone contact numbers from the first paragraph of this article. Thank you so much for your support.

LIST OF NAMES TO BE ENGRAVED ON THE NEW MEMORIAL WALL UPON COMPLETION

Aisha Kathleen Collins
Amber Rhiannon Adams
Ashley Benson
Austin Joe Hrynko
Benjamin Redmond
Braylon Michael Duguay
Charlie Peralta
Cheritee Yvonne Vance
Cheryl Elizabeth Hart
Christopher James Loftus
Coltin Jacob Salsbury
Coulton McComb-Buehler
Craig C. Moritz Jr.
Dale Archie Brown
Daniel Guerin
David Rothrock
David G. Swapp Jr.
Dean A. Kuntz
Dean Anthony Kuntz
Devan Chanel Schmidt
Diego Aguilar
Douglas Oliver Benton
Glen Edward Drysdale
Harold Sloan Blanchard
Izaak Gillen
Jason Dale Johnson
Jason Michael Ell
Jason Scott Williams
Jayme Sue Austin
Jeffery Towers
Jeffery Ray Brown
Jessica Lynn Clark
Jodi Marie Brewer
Joseph Ben Peterson
Julio Cesar Marquez Jr.
Kathleen Lois Bauman
Kayla Ann Hendrickson
Kaylee Anne Sawyer
Keith Ardell Benefield
Kenneth Dylan Lambert
Krystal Jaye Mitchell
Kyle William Peckham
Laura Jean Bohlen
London Grey McCabe
Marcos Juan Castillo
Molly Irene McCarter
Nicolas Lamont Lawson
Nicolette Naomi “Nikki” Elias
Paul W. Miller
Rachelle “Shelly” Law
Randall Le0 Gettman
Raymond Lee Myers
Rebekah “Becky” Selegue Johnson
Ryan Robert Jones
Stuart M. Hess
Carol A. Hess
Kenzie Rose La Buy
Jared Stout
Anthony Branch Jr.
Aisha K. Zughbiegh-Collins

(Please contact us if your loved one’s name does not appear on this paper and you would like to have it added. A form will be added to our newsletter each month to be used for adding names for the wall when it is completed. Please check the spelling of your loved one’s name and let us know if it is wrong. You can e-mail us at elledge1@gmail.com, call 505-656-8039, or mail us at POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Rd., Oregon City, OR 97045.)

MEMORIAL DONATIONS FOR NEW WALL

JANET J. L.
DONALD AND NINA E.
KEITH AND PATRICIA E.


BETH GREEAR PUTS SUPPORT GROUP FOR POMC MEMBERS ON FACEBOOK

The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Beth Greear has created a facebook support group for POMC members. To reach it use: www.facebook.com/groups/POMC.Portlalnd.Vancouver/ Beth said that there are several “admins” of the page so she is sure it will be very beneficial to anyone who would like to use it.

We cannot thank her enough for the chance to have even more support for our members. Beth is an outstanding person who is always there to reach out to help others. She even brought a delicious dessert for our December holiday meeting. We will be writing more on this next month and giving the names of other members who are helping with this project.


LIVING WITHOUT JUSTICE

Unsolved Homicides ~ A CoVictims’ Worst Nightmare

The murder of a loved one is the most horrific thing a person can experience.  The only thing that can make it worse is a substandard initial investigation or not seeing justice in your case.  Timely collection of evidence followed by an arrest and conviction would provide a degree of comfort, but what happens to co-victims when a thorough investigation is not done, and there is no arrest?  Many of the victims' friends and acquaintances will gradually let go of their grief over time, but the closest of friends and family will remain in a state of sorrow, haunted by the injustice of investigators that may not have conformed to rules or standard operating procedures during their initial investigation.  Not only is there no relief, but the agony of the event changes their lives forever, and becomes part of their very being.  Co-victims' everyday battle becomes their effort to get a thorough investigation.

Helplessness is a gut-wrenching emotion which plagues co-victims who are not allowed to assist with the investigation and are longing for justice.  We don't want to let our loved one down; we are compelled to fight for justice no matter how long it takes.  As the process drags on, frustration grows.  Many times, due to confidentiality, important conversations between co-victims and law enforcement are avoided, and this lack of communication can cause co-victims to feel neglected and disrespected, which often manifests itself in frustration, anger, and a loss of confidence in the investigators. Regular contact and truthfulness are two of the most important things survivors need from law enforcement. We need investigators to focus on routine communication of as much information as possible with sensitivity and without being misleading. Survivors’ perception that information is not being shared with them can result in them feeling they have been secondarily victimized. As the years pass, co-victims start wondering if their unsolved homicide could be reviewed by a fresh set of eyes, and they often look into getting their case to a cold case unit, only to find out that some jurisdictions don't even have a cold case unit.   If there is a cold case unit in their jurisdiction, cases are evaluated and chosen according to a set of criteria.  Co-victims whose cases seem to be continuously passed over for review become dismayed and even angry toward law enforcement. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action, but uncontrolled anger can negatively affect personal or social well-being. 

Co-victims who put forth the effort to examine and understand the cold case process and various factors which must be dealt with during cold case investigations are able to put the process into perspective.  They must understand that cold cases are among the most difficult and frustrating cases for both co-victims and law enforcement, and not every case is chosen to be investigated.  It helps to review the following criteria checklist used by the National Sheriff’s Association, Justice Solutions and POMC: 

Complete an application for cold case review. This application includes detailed information regarding agency reports, victimology, suspects/persons of interest, timeline, coroner, lab reports, investigation documents, weapon descriptions and media releases.  

Co-victims should also be aware that closing rates can be more successful if investigators work only one or two cases at a time.  At this point, if we find out that our case doesn’t qualify for review by a cold case unit, our only hope is that a thorough re-investigation will be done by homicide investigators. 

If you have comments or questions about this article, please email: pat.kuiper@yahoo.com or call Pat Kuiper at 702-809-8654 to get your loved ones' name listed in our newsletter.  Feel free to contact Pat if you would like to share your story. 

UNSOLVED CASES

Lucy Eilertson (1998)
Diana Moffitt (1987)
Donald James Brown (2007)
Kimberly Larson Reames (1983)
William (Bill) Mark Stratton (2005)


SIBLING SITE IS LAUNCHED

The Greater Portland Chapter is so proud of our member, Amanda Harris, for launching her official site for siblings. Amanda is offering the Website: www.unitingsiblings.com so that sibling co-victims of homicide have a place to go where they will be understood and supported. This site will include video, chat, and telephone conference via a secure and private interface. Amanda is paying for the expenses and will be delighted to be another support for sibling co-victims. Amanda can also be reached at: Amanda@unitingsiblings.com or 623-866-3189.

Amanda Harris is now ready to start her web site for siblings. The Portland Chapter is excited about the support and understanding this new group will be for the many often overlooked survivors.


NATIONAL POMC SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER SUBSCRIPTION FORM

Please find, enclosed, $10.00 for my annual subscription (three issues) for the Survivors Newsletter.
(Please consider adding an extra subscription fee to help defray the cost for someone who cannot afford it.)

NAME: _____________________________________________________________________________

ADDRESS: __________________________________________________________________________

CITY, STATE, ZIP____________________________________________________________________

MAIL TO: POMC, INC. ENCLOSED IS MY: CHECK _________________

100 E. EIGHTH STREET, B-41 MONEY ORDER__________

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PERMISSION FOR ENGRAVING OF NAMES FOR POMC’S OREGON/WASHINGTON MEMORIAL WALL

PRINTED NAME OF LOVED ONE_________________________________________ (This will be engraved on the wall)

LOVED ONE’S BIRTHDATE____________________________ DEATH DATE____________________________

MEMBER/FRIEND’S NAME AND ADDRESS ____________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________________________________________

MEMBER/FRIEND’S PHONE NUMBER_____________________________ Do you want a Newsletter? Yes No

SIGNATURE FOR PERMISSION TO
ENGRAVE NAME AND SPELLING APPROVAL_________________________________________________________

Please submit one form for each loved one. Please make efforts with other family members/friends to ensure multiple requests are not received for the same name. When completed, please mail, fax, or e-mail to the following places: POMC, Mary Elledge, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR 97045 or fax 503-656-4420, or e-mail: elledge1@email.com. If you have any questions, please call 503-656-8039.

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Oregon-Washington Public Memorial Garden
Remembering Those We Have Lost to Murder
CONTRIBUTION OR PLEDGE FORM

Please Complete and Return to Memorial Garden,
POMC 14427 S. Forsythe Rd Oregon City, OR 97045

100% of Contributions are Tax Deductible

Name:____________________________________________ phone: __________________________

Address:_____________________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________________________________

E-MAIL: ___________________________________________________

Options :

Gift in Memory of: __________________________________________________________

Anonymous gift (will not be recognized at the Memorial Garden or in published materials)

Method of Payment:

Check Enclosed

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Name on Card _________________________________________________________________

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Pledged Payment (to be completed by December 31, 2014)
Please add notes on payment timing _________________________________________

Thank you for helping to create the Oregon-Washington Public Memorial Garden. Your generosity will never be forgotten.

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Tacoma Violent Crime Victim Services Welcomes Homicide Survivors

Peer Support Group Meeting

If someone you love has been the victim of a homicide, we invite you to attend our monthly support group meeting. You will find acceptance, compassion and support.

Place: United Way Building
3rd FLOOR CONFERENCE ROOM

Date: 3rd Wednesday of Each Month!
Time: 7:30PM – 10:00PM

The United Way Building is located in Tacoma, at 1501 Pacific Avenue. This is the same building that the VCVS office is located in. It is next to Union Station on the north side. As you pass Union Station you will see the United Way Building. Parking is on the south side of the building. Please park your vehicle in an open space and enter the building’s front entrance and take the elevator to the third floor. The conference room is Suite 312. Please call Lew Cox for more information (253) 383-5254.


Court Watch

POMC'S Court Watch Program is designed to help families maneuver through the court system. Two of the most important aspects of Court Watch are the prevention of any re-victimization to family members, and the minimizing of the emotional pain of going through hearings and trials.

If you would like support from POMC during hearings and trials or want to offer assistance, call Pat Elmore at 503-312-5681 or Allen Tremain at 503-522- 0577.


Important Notice Concerning The Newsletter:

Each month a number of newsletter are returned due to delivery problems. In addition to the initial postage, return postage is charged by the Postal Service. To minimize this expense, please write to the return address of this newsletter or contact Gayle if your address changes or you no longer wish to receive this publication.