April 2000 was the 20th anniversary of National Crime Victims’ Rights Week. Yet, it was 16 years earlier when people realized that victims needed rights and supporters of victims, co-victims, and victims of crimes joined together to lobby and fight for rights for all victims of crimes. Before that, the criminal justice system was just what it was called. It was for “criminals”. We have come a long way, but we still are leaving some victims and co-victims behind. I am getting more and more calls from people who cases are still unsolved after many years. I even have one case that is now just getting support from law enforcement after 15 years. When the murder happened, it was not investigated as it should have been. I have a lot of faith in law enforcement but, all cases are not treated the same.
Every unsolved homicide leaves a murderer out there to commit another murder. Why did I pick the year, 2000? Because the topic for Victims Week that year was “Shattered Dreams---Dare to Dream. Violence shatters our lives and dreams. When a life is stolen because of a homicide, dreams are shattered forever.
Being quiet about crime allows it to happen again. We must not forget. It take all of us to react to the violence in our society to make a difference. I have seen lives shattered forever when a homicide case is not solved. I have spoken with co-victims that told me that they were as victimized by the justice system as much as the murder of their loved one. Yet, I have also had praise from co-victims for the supportive and professional help they received from those working in the justice system. Personally, my family and I received positive and professional help from the justice system.
Thirty years ago, victims and co-victims were not even allowed in the courtroom for their trial that changed their lives forever. In Oregon as well as other states, we were hardly told anything about the case or the status of the offender. We were not allowed to make impact statements; personal protection was not always considered and financial restitution was not even in the picture. It was through the hard work of victims left behind and those who really cared who worked in the justice system that we were able to have these rights put into laws.
As co-victims of homicide, we carry the scars forever. Our dreams for the futures of our loved ones cannot be restored. What allows us to go on is when we see that our loved ones’ lives have made a difference to eliminate others from the same fate. We see this when the guilty are held accountable.
To have a loved one murdered by a released murderer or a person known to be violent is the ultimate in victimization. How many times can one person be allowed to murder?
Some people will say they do not want to hear or talk about homicide. Avoiding injustices only allows them to continue. Not taking part against violence makes a statement that this is a part of life that cannot be changed. We should all speak out against cultural ignorance or indifference to any type of violence. October is the month we remember the toll families and friends suffer from domestic violence.
In realizing that all of us are hurt by crime, we raise the status of victims. It is not a crime to be a victim. It is a crime for those who victimize. As co-victims of homicide, we thank all of the people who are part of the justice system for helping and supporting us. We thank you all for being outraged. This is what we dare to dream. Parents of murdered Children’s dream is that you stay outraged about homicide and do not forget. It is not forgetting that we can “dare to dream” it will not happen to others. It is in remembering that there are 45 murders committed every day in the United States and one can add the same amount to those who are murdered by vehicular homicide that we can help reduce the murder rate. All of us need to be outraged when a murder is not solved. Money spend for protection of society is well spent. We could save over 32,000 lives a year if we stopped homicide and vehicular homicide. It takes all of us to make a difference.
All my love,
August 18, 2016
To The Greater Portland Area Chapter:
My child died suddenly. Most likely the person whom you adored and held close to your heart was ripped away from you too. Perhaps you share with me the feeling of shock and are unable to cope with life because you’re heartbroken. Shock came unto me the day I saw my son lie motionless in the highway. As I walked towards him to kiss his cold cheeks for the last time; I tearfully wept the words repeatedly, “I’m so sorry.” From that moment on, I didn’t know what to expect from the world. I was stripped of any control I had over my life. I felt so lost and out of place. I didn’t belong here any longer and I just wanted to be with my son. I share my loss with you because I know you understand my pain. Now I will share with you my story.
In December 2008 I had finally graduated from college. I earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Criminology and Justice Studies. It was a very happy time for me and my two boys. Shortly after I graduated I remember my son asking me, “Things are going to get better, right Mom? Now that you have this degree you can get a good paying job”. I proudly replied, “Yes, we aren’t going to struggle anymore.” After our conversation I hugged and kissed my son goodbye. I told him, “I love you and I’ll see you soon.” Those were the last words I spoke to him when he was alive. In less than 48 hours he was taken from me and my world came crashing down. I was frozen in time for the next 6 years and my emotions were in turmoil. Nothing could make me laugh and I had difficulty smiling. More often than not my days were filled with tears and anger. I gave up on life.
As the 6th year of mourning my son encroached upon me, I became friends with a very special person. We immediately connected, perhaps because she lost her sister suddenly too. We leaned on each other, sharing moments of laughter and moments of sorrow. The years prior to my friendship with her, I alienated myself from people because they just didn’t understand what I was feeling. On the contrary, my dear friend understood it all and encouraged me to be a better person.
But as many of us experience after losing our loved ones, we begin to spiral downward. Such was the case with me and my close friend. Displeased with the Victim Compensation Fund and the little support it offered her, I reached out to POMC and was connected with Mary Elledge, a truly compassionate, warm, attentive, and kind person. She is oh, so kind. As I shared my worries with Mary she guided me in the direction to be most supportive to my dear, grieving friend. She shared with me 30 years of knowledge about grief and its process. Her experience and stories are invaluable to me.
In conclusion, I can’t confess that my life is fantastic. However, it seems to be more tolerable. Furthermore, surrounding myself with people who truly care and can relate to me has provided me a certain degree of emotional stability. I have made an effort to pursue my career in the field of criminology following the death of my beloved son. I am now a licensed private investigator as well as an armed security and body guard.
Never did I imagine my life having such a dreadful and tragic twist. I continually seek answers and want some sort of justice to prevail honoring my son. I may never get those questions answered but I am determined to share my knowledge and suggestion’s with you. I would be pleased to assist any grieving family in doing so. Should you care to talk I can be reached at (858) 354-3472.
I am very sorry for your loss and hope to offer you support and encouragement through this very difficult period in your life. May you strive to find peace.
Every year in the United States there are over 3 million incidents of reported domestic violence and 4,000 victims of domestic violence are killed. It is estimated that one-fourth of all homicides in this country occur within the family and one-half of these are husband-wife killings. In Oregon, intimate partner violence accounts for approximately 1 in 4 homicides. Today by the time a student graduates from high school, 1 in 3 will have experienced either physical or sexual violence, or both at the hands of someone they are dating or going out with. Approximately one-third of the children in the Portland Area Chapter Parents of Murdered Children were domestic violence related.
Domestic violence is defined as abuse committed against members of the same family, a spouse, former spouse, cohabitant, former cohabitant, a person with whom the offender has had a child.
It also can happen with someone who has had a dating or engagement relationship regardless of sexual orientation or between children and elderly parents.
Domestic violence affects many people. Ninety-five percent of victims are women. For this article women are referenced. Victims of all cultures, races, occupations, income levels, and ages are battered by husbands, boyfriends, lovers, and partners. It is reported that one-third of the men who batter are professional men who are well respected in their job and their communities. These have included doctors, psychologists, lawyers, ministers, and business executives.
Domestic violence is not an isolated, individual event. One battering episode builds on past episodes and sets the stage for future episodes. These repeated incidences build with increasing frequency and severity over time.
The violence may begin with angry words, a shove, a slap, and may escalate into a pattern of assaultive controlling behaviors including physical, sexual, and psychological attacks against the victim, children, property, and/or pets. Other violent behaviors include hitting, choking, kicking, assault with a weapon, shoving, scratching, biting, rape, and unwanted sexual touching.
Women who leave their batterers are at a 75% greater risk of being killed by the batterer than those who stay. Nationally, 50% of all homeless women and children are on the streets because of violence in the home. There are nearly 3 times as many animal shelters in the United States as there are shelters for battered women and their children.
If you or a loved one is in an abusive relationship, there are things the victim can do to protect themselves. One important step is not ignoring the problem, but to try to learn to think independently, to plan for the future, and set goals for yourself. The police and other agencies have information about shelters that help victims of domestic violence. It may be also good to talk with a friend, neighbor or a counselor for support. Having a plan if you decide to leave is important as well as setting aside some money. This plan should include choosing a place to go, having important papers such as marriage license, birth certificates, checkbooks, savings account books, social security cards, and insurance information.
Batterers usually have low self-esteem, blames others for their behavior are pathologically jealous, copes with severe stress reactions by drinking and battering, and believes battering is warranted.
Another tactic is keeping the victim in a state of confusion by giving punishment and rewards unpredictably to keep the woman from leaving.
Common traits among victims include having low self-esteem and may lack a clear self-identity, many will often time accept responsibility for batterer’s behavior, and are often ashamed to peak with anyone about the abuse. Victims may feel they must be self-sufficient, and many believe in myths of battering relationships.
Battered victims stay with the batterer for many reasons: the victim loves the batterer, but also fears the batterer, may be economically dependent on the batterer, religious and/or cultural beliefs, learned helplessness, staying for the sake of the children needing a father or threat by batterer to take the children away from the victim if the victim leaves, and may feel trapped.
The victim could also have Stockholm or “hostage” syndrome. This is when the abuser and victim are bi-directionally bonded, the victim is intensely grateful for small kindnesses shown by the abuser, rationalizes the violence in their relationship, will view the world from the abusers perspective. Most often the victim will also show symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder. The victim becomes addicted to the high highs and low lows that accompany the cycle. The fear mechanism is dulled to such an extent that the victim no longer has the instinctive reaction to protect oneself.
Understanding the cycle of violence may be key to recognizing the need to seek assistance for the victim. There are three phases. In the initial phase of romance, the batterer attempts to bond or connect with their partner. Next, the batterer begins to assert his or her power over the victim in an attempt to control the victim’s actions. Examples include setting rules for the victim to follow to restrict freedom, cutting off access to other family members, controlling how money is spent on activities and purchases, and needing to obtain permission for everything the victim does. When the rules are violated, then the acute battering phase begins. During this phase, the batterer exhibits violent outbursts where the batterer may start out with a slap, a pinch, or hair pulling. The violence increases as the cycle continues often leading to bodily injury. The victims usually react with shock, denial or disbelief. In the third phase, the batterer may begin an effort to seek forgiveness and ensure the relationship will not break up. Although the batterer may apologize, they still blame the victim for the violence. Nonetheless, once the violence has begun, it increases in both frequency and severity. Only when the victim is able to identify the cycle, then she is able to recognize the victimization. It is important that the victim understands their life is valuable and it should not be risked in staying while trying to “help” someone who is brutally battering. Getting away safely is wiser than trying to change the abusive husband or engaging in conflict.
Killing a spouse is usually a decision, not a loss of control. In many cases the violence that preceded the murder was a secret kept by several people. Neighbors, friends, or family members must not ignore the violence. Murderers are adverse to rejection by others. It is terrible enough in private, but intolerable in public. For abusers, rejection is a threat to the identity, the persona, and to the entire self. So when many murderers also commit suicide, they are in essence refusing to accept rejection which is more important to them than life itself.
When the Violence Against Women Act was passed in 1994, it specifically centered around domestic violence and sexual assault. It has expanded to include dating violence and stalking. In 2013, “National Domestic Violence Awareness month” was proclaimed for the month of October. It was established so we as a nation may promote peace in our families, homes, and communities.
The above information was obtained from several sources: The Los Angeles Police Department of Domestic Violence, Clackamas Women’s Services, and the book “Gift of Fear” by Gavin DeBecker.
We are grateful to one of our members for writing this article on “Domestic Abuse”.
On behalf of the Greater Portland Area Chapter of Parents of Murdered Children, I would like to express our deepest appreciation to all of the generous people who have donated to the building of our addition memorial wall. We have a beautiful POMC Memorial now and families and friends from all over Oregon and Washington come to honor the memory of their loved ones who were so brutally taken from them. Sadly to say, our wall is completely filled. We have 500 names engraved on it.
What we are planning to do when we have enough funds is to build an additional wall that will hold 1000 more names. We have so many families who are waiting to add their loved ones’ name. It means so much to them because one of our greatest fears as a co-victims of homicide is that our loved one will not be remembered. They did not get to live the life they were suppose to. Some of the names on our wall belong to little babies to any age of adult. As co-victims, we have all suffered the same loss, the loss of a loved one to homicide. Our lives were completely changed. Homicide cannot be resolved.
What is also important is that we also educate the public when people come to see our wall. Murder can happen to any family. If people see the amount of people who are murdered, they will realize how important protection of society truly is. We need a justice system that works and laws for the protection of society. At POMC, we wish that people would never need our services. Sadly to say, we are getting more calls each day.
Co-victims of homicide need the peace and tranquility we are able to achieve at our POMC Memorial Wall. We are surrounded by beautiful sequoia trees, running water from the memorial, flowers, verses engraved on the stones that stand tall by the wall and a serenity that gives them hope and a place to gather and see that they are not alone.
We again ask for your help and thank those who have been so generous to our cause. If you would like to help, please go to the website of “Go Fund Me” and look under “POMC Memorial Wall”. All donations are appreciated and tax deductible. So many of our members are waiting to add their loved one’s name to the wall. Oregon has the largest POMC Memorial in the United States. Thank you for your help.
On September 23, 2016, we will be celebrating our “National Day of Remembrance” in Oregon City at Mt. View Cemetery. We hope that by next year the wall will be completed. We hope to have a large attendance so more people know that it is only by joining together that we can help put an end to the horror of homicide. Again, we will have a BBQ after the event. It is free for all who attend and a chance for all of us to share and visit with each other. If you know of anyone who would like to donate to helping with the barbeque, please send any donations for the BBQ or wall to POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR 97045. Thank you for whatever you might be able to do.
Homicide: One person is murdered every 31 minutes.
Rape: One person is raped every 1.9 minutes.
Aggravated Assault: One person is assaulted every 36.9 seconds.
Larceny Theft: One home is victimized every 4.8 seconds.
Burglary: One home is burglarized every 18 seconds.
Domestic Violence: One woman is victimized by an intimate partner every 52 seconds.
One man is victimized every 3.5 minutes.
Child Abuse and Neglect: One child is reported abused or neglected every 34.9 seconds.
Drunk Driving: One person is killed in an alcohol related traffic crash every 40.4 minutes.
Identity Fraud: One person becomes a victim of identity theft every 4.9 seconds.
Elder Abuse: One elderly person is victimized every 4.2 minutes.
Hate crime: One hate crime is reported to the police every 69 minutes.
Funding for our new POMC Oregon/Washington Wall officially began this January, 2015. Members and friends of our chapter have been generous with donations and we are so thankful. Many of our new members are waiting for their loved ones names to be put on our new wall. We are listing new names that will be engraved when the wall is completed. We ask that members will call us, e-mail, or mail the information if you do not see your loved ones name on the list. The phone number is 503-656-8039, the e-mail is: email@example.com or POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road.
We are designing the wall now and hoping to build a wall that will accommodate more names than the existing wall. We want to list all of our loved ones
If any of our members work at a company or know of anyone who would like to make a donation please let us know or it is fine for you to ask for a donation yourself. We are a non-profit organization. Donations are tax deductible. Please use the phone contact numbers from the first paragraph of this article. Thank you so much for your support.
Amber Rhiannon Adams
Austin Joe Hrynko
Braylon Michael Duguay
Cheritee Yvonne Vance
Craig C. Moritz Jr.
Dale Archie Brown
David G. Swapp Jr.
Dean A. Kuntz
Devan Chanel Schmidt
Douglas Oliver Benton
Glen Edward Drysdale
Harold Sloan Blanchard
Jason Scott Williams
Jayme Sue Austin
Jeffery Ray Brown
Jessica Lynn Clark
Jodi Marie Brewer
Julio Cesar Marquev
Kathleen Lois Bauman
Keith Ardell Benefield
Kenneth Dylan Lambert
Kyle William Peckham
Laura Jean Bohlen
London Grey McCabe
Marcos J. Castillo
Nicolas Lamont Lawson
Nicolette Naomi Elias
Paul W. Miller
Randall Leo Gettman
Rebekah “Becky” Selegue Johnson
William Roland Hatch III
Sahara Grace Dwight
Jason Dale Johnson
Ryan Robert Jones
Kaylee Anne Sawyer
(Please contact us if your loved one’s name does not appear on this paper and you would like to have it added. A form will be added to our newsletter each month to be used for adding names for the wall when it is completed. Please check the spelling of your loved one’s name and let us know if it is wrong. You can e-mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org, call 505-656-8039, or mail us at POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Rd., Oregon City, OR 97045.)
ELEANORE P. B.
The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Beth Greear has created a facebook support group for POMC members. To reach it use: www.facebook.com/groups/POMC.Portlalnd.Vancouver/ Beth said that there are several “admins” of the page so she is sure it will be very beneficial to anyone who would like to use it.
We cannot thank her enough for the chance to have even more support for our members. Beth is an outstanding person who is always there to reach out to help others. She even brought a delicious dessert for our December holiday meeting. We will be writing more on this next month and giving the names of other members who are helping with this project.
There could not be a better time to share the story of beautiful Annie McCann. Annie is the daughter of Mary Jane and Dan McCann. You will also find a letter in this newsletter that was written to State Attorney Marilyn Mosby about getting help for the McCann family.
Mary Jane and Dan have written an article so that you can read the entire account, “The Color of Puke”, on line. It is a compelling story that we hope you will read:
What do parents do when their child’s apparent murder goes unexplored? That’s what POMC members Mary Jane and Dan McCann are struggling with. They’ve written of their cruel ordeal. Here is an excerpt:
“Annie died under the most sinister of circumstances. She was seen by two extraordinarily reliable eyewitnesses as lively, animated, and unbruised at a pastry shop in Baltimore’s Little Italy. A few short hours later, a few blocks away, she was found soaking wet, without shoes , with blunt force trauma to both sides of her forehead, with a vicious bruise on her backside and a bloody bra, poisoned with a massively lethal amount of lidocaine in her engorged stomach, stuffed behind a dumpster by thugs, who If they didn’t kill her themselves, were likely paid to dump her.
The best objective guess on how Annie died? It tracks pretty closely to FBI Deputy Assistant and Director Campbell’s testimony to Congress. She was lured under false pretenses from her sheltered suburban home by human traffickers, and murdered with a lethal dose of lidocaine, probably in an alcoholic drink, when she resisted the unfolding plan. That is informed by speculation, based on the facts we’ve learned; in honesty and accuracy, it is light-years beyond the impossible theory, that Annie killed herself.
What’s really needed is a vigorous and open-mined police investigation. That’s all we’ve ever asked for. It’s never been done.”
You can read the entire account, “The Color of Puke” online.
During this year’s commemoration of National Crime Victims’ Week, can we engage our POMC community to help the McCanns gain justice for their daughter?
Shelley Dawn Elkins, born on May 31, 1968, was a beautiful twenty year old woman who had loving parents, Nina and Don Elkins, and a devoted loving sister, Sharon Christensen. Shelley was engaged and was living in own home with her fiancé when she was murdered on May 31, 1989.
Dail Ryan Yates waited for her fiancé, his cousin, to go to work early in the morning when he decided to murder Shelley. He strangled her. He showed no remorse. In fact, six months earlier he shot and killed a man in Estacada, Oregon. He was charged with the man’s murder and kept in jail until his trial. Unfortunately, he was found not guilty. He had claimed self-defense. It was less than a month later, that he murdered Shelley. For a family, it is unbearable to think that if justice had been handed out their daughter might not have been murdered.
After the murder of Shelley, Yates was found guilty and given life with the minimum of 25 years. On February 18, 2014, he was given a parole exit hearing. He had served his twenty-five years.
Shelley’s sister, Sharon, spent hours contacting people to write letters against Dail’s release and working with Victims Specialist Attorney Rosemary Brewer to get information and evidence that Dail Yates was a risk to society if he were let out. Ms. Brewer is an excellent attorney who is well prepared to assist victims trying to keep a murderer behind bars when they are likely to commit a crime again. Again, Mr. Yates was not sorry he murdered Shelley.
The Parole Board listened to both sides and ruled that Dail Ryan Yates should serve four more years. Many letters against his release were mailed in and eleven people were there to support Shelley’s memory. Ms. Brewer proved he was a risk. Shelley’s sister Sharon spoke as well.
As a chapter, we are proud of the Elkins family and all of those who helped keep a murderer in prison longer to protect society. We also offer the Elkins’ family our deepest sympathy and support. Your daughter Shelley would be proud. Your actions are protecting society. Shelley is and will always be remembered. We would also like to thank Rosemary Brewer for an excellent job as well as the Board of Parole and Debbie Wojciechowski, Victim Specialist . Debbie is excellent in helping co-victims of homicide go through the painful experience of revisiting the murder of their loved one.
The murder of a loved one is the most horrific thing a person can experience. The only thing that can make it worse is a substandard initial investigation or not seeing justice in your case. Timely collection of evidence followed by an arrest and conviction would provide a degree of comfort, but what happens to co-victims when a thorough investigation is not done, and there is no arrest? Many of the victims' friends and acquaintances will gradually let go of their grief over time, but the closest of friends and family will remain in a state of sorrow, haunted by the injustice of investigators that may not have conformed to rules or standard operating procedures during their initial investigation. Not only is there no relief, but the agony of the event changes their lives forever, and becomes part of their very being. Co-victims' everyday battle becomes their effort to get a thorough investigation.
Helplessness is a gut-wrenching emotion which plagues co-victims who are not allowed to assist with the investigation and are longing for justice. We don't want to let our loved one down; we are compelled to fight for justice no matter how long it takes. As the process drags on, frustration grows. Many times, due to confidentiality, important conversations between co-victims and law enforcement are avoided, and this lack of communication can cause co-victims to feel neglected and disrespected, which often manifests itself in frustration, anger, and a loss of confidence in the investigators. Regular contact and truthfulness are two of the most important things survivors need from law enforcement. We need investigators to focus on routine communication of as much information as possible with sensitivity and without being misleading. Survivors’ perception that information is not being shared with them can result in them feeling they have been secondarily victimized. As the years pass, co-victims start wondering if their unsolved homicide could be reviewed by a fresh set of eyes, and they often look into getting their case to a cold case unit, only to find out that some jurisdictions don't even have a cold case unit. If there is a cold case unit in their jurisdiction, cases are evaluated and chosen according to a set of criteria. Co-victims whose cases seem to be continuously passed over for review become dismayed and even angry toward law enforcement. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action, but uncontrolled anger can negatively affect personal or social well-being.
Co-victims who put forth the effort to examine and understand the cold case process and various factors which must be dealt with during cold case investigations are able to put the process into perspective. They must understand that cold cases are among the most difficult and frustrating cases for both co-victims and law enforcement, and not every case is chosen to be investigated. It helps to review the following criteria checklist used by the National Sheriff’s Association, Justice Solutions and POMC:
Complete an application for cold case review. This application includes detailed information regarding agency reports, victimology, suspects/persons of interest, timeline, coroner, lab reports, investigation documents, weapon descriptions and media releases.
Co-victims should also be aware that closing rates can be more successful if investigators work only one or two cases at a time. At this point, if we find out that our case doesn’t qualify for review by a cold case unit, our only hope is that a thorough re-investigation will be done by homicide investigators.
If you have comments or questions about this article, please email: email@example.com or call Pat Kuiper at 702-809-8654 to get your loved ones' name listed in our newsletter. Feel free to contact Pat if you would like to share your story.
Lucy Eilertson (1998)
Diana Moffitt (1987)
Donald James Brown (2007)
Kimberly Larson Reames (1983)
William (Bill) Mark Stratton (2005)
The Greater Portland Chapter is so proud of our member, Amanda Harris, for launching her official site for siblings. Amanda is offering the Website: www.unitingsiblings.com so that sibling co-victims of homicide have a place to go where they will be understood and supported. This site will include video, chat, and telephone conference via a secure and private interface. Amanda is paying for the expenses and will be delighted to be another support for sibling co-victims. Amanda can also be reached at: Amanda@unitingsiblings.com or 623-866-3189.
Amanda Harris is now ready to start her web site for siblings. The Portland Chapter is excited about the support and understanding this new group will be for the many often overlooked survivors.
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(Please consider adding an extra subscription fee to help defray the cost for someone who cannot afford it.)
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Tacoma Violent Crime Victim Services Welcomes Homicide Survivors
Peer Support Group Meeting
If someone you love has been the victim of a homicide, we invite you to attend our monthly support group meeting. You will find acceptance, compassion and support.
Place: United Way Building
3rd FLOOR CONFERENCE ROOM
Date: 3rd Wednesday of Each Month!
Time: 7:30PM – 10:00PM
The United Way Building is located in Tacoma, at 1501 Pacific Avenue. This is the same building that the VCVS office is located in. It is next to Union Station on the north side. As you pass Union Station you will see the United Way Building. Parking is on the south side of the building. Please park your vehicle in an open space and enter the building’s front entrance and take the elevator to the third floor. The conference room is Suite 312. Please call Lew Cox for more information (253) 383-5254.
POMC'S Court Watch Program is designed to help families maneuver through the court system. Two of the most important aspects of Court Watch are the prevention of any re-victimization to family members, and the minimizing of the emotional pain of going through hearings and trials.
If you would like support from POMC during hearings and trials or want to offer assistance, call Pat Elmore at 503-312-5681 or Allen Tremain at 503-522- 0577.
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