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JUNE, 2016 MESSAGE FROM MARY
“THE SONG, “LOVE REMEMBERS,” CAN BE A MESSAGE FOR EVERYONE

The song, “Love Remembers”, can be a message for all of us. It might even be more appropriate because of the fact that “Father’s Day” will soon be here. For most fathers, it is a day to reflect on the child or children they have and the joys of being a father. Sadly, it is different for fathers whose child or children were murdered. The ugly thing about homicide is that it cannot be resolved. It takes a long time to get the fact that your child was murdered not to always come up in your mind when you think of them. The first years can be a nightmare. The scenario plays over and over in our minds. What we must never forget is the fact that we need to tell our story. If we do not, it plays like a record, over and over.

Many of us will feel like we have no control over our need to go over the scenario of the loss of our child. It never stops. Yet, some of us may not be able to get the words out. This is even worse. There is no one way that is right when we lose someone to homicide. Traumatic grief leaves us with the same symptoms a person suffers from having post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

What also occurs is the worry that our loved one will not be remembered. It is almost as sad as accepting the fact that they were murdered. It affects each one of us differently. I didn’t want the picture of my loved one on our POMC picture board. It was years before I finally had enough courage to add his name to our picture board. I felt that if I put his picture on the board, I would be admitting he would not be back. I was trying to keep him with me as long as I could. I knew he was dead, but I could not accept it. Murder makes losing a loved one even harder. We focus on how and if our loved one suffered. After that, we focus on justice for our loved one. If there is no justice, we get stuck in our pain. This makes us feel like we have let our loved ones down. Some of us never find our loved one’s body. Their death is never really acknowledged.

Life without our loved one brings an emptiness we never knew before. We are faced with mind-boggling grief. Our happy memories fade. We are left with a pain we are unprepared to deal with. Grief takes us away from the living. It can make us feel that we don’t even fit in with our own family. They want to help us. Yet, we don’t know how they can. We are now different. We are not the rock we thought we were. We feel misunderstood and somehow alone even if we are surrounded by others. We might even feel that our family and friends would be better off without seeing or hearing us grieve. I sometimes felt that I was pulling my family down with me. I wondered if I would be able to say his name without having my heart break.

Experts tell us that murder is the hardest way to lose a loved one. We know that murder can’t be resolved. Yet, we hear painful comments from people who think they are being helpful. If a parent is murdered, a person might say, “At least, they were older.” If your child was murdered, I have heard people say, “Thank heaven, you have more children,” Worst of all, they might say, “It was God’s will.” It is no wonder we can’t remember anything but our loss. Many of us may wonder if we will ever be able to remember happy times we shared. For those who continue to suffer from years of PTSD, we know now that there are experts who can help them. It is now recognized that traumatic grief causes people who have lost loved ones in a violent way to suffer from its’ symptoms.

Depression is another illness that co-victims can face. For counseling, it is so important that co-victims of homicide go to only experts who understand “the aftermath of homicide”. Support groups that deal only with co-victims of homicide can be the most effective. When we gather, we know we are not alone. We see others who feel that they are also losing their minds. We see others who feel that they don’t want to go on without their loved one. There are some co-victims who have never found their loved ones’ bodies. Co-victims can also feel guilty and angry. The anger and rage some of us feel when we see or hear about the person who murdered our loved one can be shocking to even us. Personally, I learned the true meaning of “rage” after my son was murdered and I saw each person who helped murder him in court proceedings.

Finding other co-victims lets us know we are not alone. No one judges us or our loved one. We all know that murder can happen to anyone. When we see that others are further along in their grief, we have hope. At POMC meetings, hugs are freely given. For those who live too far away from meetings, there are telephone friends to call. Telephone friends can be a lifeline to those who cannot get to meetings or for those who cannot wait for a meeting.

I hope that all co-victims will be able to know that “Love Remembers”. You will need to do your grief work and share with others who understand. You need to know that after we have been able to go through our grief and not around it, we will open the doors to remembering the love and happy times we shared with our loved ones. In the book, “Safe Passage”, Moly Fumia wrote:

“Even though I am surrounded by friends, I
Think about images of the past that are still
Present for me.
Which of these ghosts, if any, deserves my
attention? It seems unkind to banish them all from
among the living, from a place that was once theirs.
But, I want to laugh again, to participate once
more in lively conversation. When I welcome those
memories that have been invited. I will eventually
close the door on those which haunt me.”

This is where the song, “Love Remembers” comes in. We will never be without our loved ones when we can remember without pain. Their mark on this earth will be kept alive by us remembering the happy times we shared. The acts of kindness and the love we shared will be the memories that “we have invited”. The memories we close the door on will be those of the pain they suffered. Yet, so that others will not meet the same fate, we will not lose sight of the fact that they were murdered. Our POMC Memorial Wall stands as a tribute to our loved ones and also lets people know that we should never forget that people are being murdered every day. As a society, we must do whatever we can to protect others from being murdered. Our justice system must be accountable. Cold cases need to be solved to pay tribute to the life that was stolen and to keep the murderers from committing another homicide. We also must thank those who risk their lives to keep us safe and those who go above and beyond to see that we have justice and support for co-victims.

I wish that I would never have to hear from another co-victim because no one was murdered. I wish that another mother and father or parent figure would not be broken as well as other family members from the devastation of homicide. We have avenues that we need to address to protect society. Finally, we have the names of police officers from Oregon and Washington who were murdered. We will honor these individuals forever because they are our own.

My deepest love and admiration.
Mary Elledge


WHAT CAN I SAY WHEN YOU ASK ME?

WHAT CAN I SAY WHEN YOU ASK ME?
WHAT CAN I SAY………WHAT CAN I SAY;
My heart hurts more each day.
What can I say when you see my sad, sad face;
I only know that I am in a painful place.
What can I say when you see the tears flow;
I never imagined that this is how my child’s life would go.
WHAT CAN I SAY………WHAT CAN I SAY;
Is this the price I must pay?
WHAT CAN I SAY WHEN YOU ASK ME?
I never thought that this could be;
I pray that this pain will someday be softer for me.
WHAT CAN I SAY……….WHAT CAN I SAY;
I know that people want me to get over this;
This puts a whole new meaning in the word “MISS”.
People are trying to be kind;
They are not able to read my mind.
They think that this can be put into a word;
To end this pain, there is no word
That I have ever heard.
WHAT CAN I SAY..........WHAT CAN I SAY;
I feel I get lonelier each day.
I lay sleepless in bed each night;
I can’t sleep though I try with all my might.
WHAT CAN I SAY WHEN YOU ASK ME?
I can only say you get what you see;
You see a sadder me.
I cannot make this pain go away;
For love, this is the price we pay.
I DO NOT KNOW WHAT I CAN SAY WHEN YOU ASK ME; RIGHT NOW IT SEEMS SADDER AND THAT IS ALL I CAN SEE.
Mary Elledge


Oregon City’s Mt. View Cemetary Memorial Day
Commemorative Service
May 30, 10:00am

Mt. View Cemetery is hosting Oregon City’s annual Memorial Day Commemorative Service. Please join us to honor our fallen military veterans and other public servants who have gone before us and the groups supporting those solders, fire and police officers.
Call 503-657-8299
500 Hilda St. Oregon City, OR 97045


IMPACT STATEMENTS FROM THE FAMILY OF BRAYLON DUGUAY

With my deepest sympathy, I am so proud to share the impact statements from the grandmother, Cynthia Brandt, and aunt, Terry Rumore, of Braylon Duguay. These two ladies each did an excellent job. This was a horrific case and we are all grateful that the murderer got the longest sentence the judge could impose.

As a chapter, we welcome Braylon’s family and they are already finding ways looking for help for our new memorial wall. We are all stronger when we are able to join together for justice, understanding, and a voice for us to be able to speak out and be heard. Like all of the wonderful families I have met over the years, I cannot help but wonder if only good people lose their loved ones to homicide. The reason for this is because some of them are the finest and most loving people in the world. I am honored to know them. But, I cannot stop wondering why this does ever happen to anyone. I wrote in a poem once: “The taking of a life is the worst kind of theft.”

Impact Statement
Cynthia Brandt
My little Grandson, Braylon Duguay, was a precious 22 month old little boy. I called him Nonny Boy.

Demi and I loved and adored him. He was everything to us. We miss him tremendously. My family, we are heartbroken. Our lives will never be the same. The loss of Braylon is unbearable.

The pain and suffering Braylon went through that day with that Evil-Monster, not one of us in this courtroom, would have been able to bear. The thought of that Scum-Bag, that Parasite, that Molester is overwhelming. He is lucky he is in shackles. So the Court needs to remember Braylon, set an example for all children and put this Predator in prison for life.

Let him live with other predators, so he feels the pain and suffering of loss. Because Braylon lost his life viciously that day.

Impact Letter

Dear Judge,
I was asked to write an impact letter regarding the case of Kenneth Stringfellow and his conviction of murdering my 22 month old nephew Braylon Duguay.
How do I begin…..how do I find the words….how do I express the depth of sadness felt by my niece and sister…..how do they find the strength to live on without their precious Braylon. This brutal murder of my beautiful 22 month old nephew, whose precious life was snuffed out that fatal day in December, robbed him of enjoying all the wonders of childhood, and growing up to have a wonderful family of his own. With Braylon now gone and my sister’s heart ripped apart….her only grandson…..her Nani boy is not in her arms, her world has changed forever.

The month Braylon was murdered, he was getting ready to celebrate his second Christmas with his mommy and grandmother. This should have been a month of celebration…..walking down with mommy and Nani (grandmother) to see the annual Christmas tree lighting. Meeting up with his little cousins….running and laughing together under the stars. Waking up Christmas day and opening all of his little presents, laughing with excitement with each new surprise. Playing that day with all his new toys and eating sweet little treats…..laughing and posing for photos that mommy and Nani would need to fill the family photo album. Everyone was looking forward to Christmas…..it was going to be great!

Today Braylon’s precious little voice is no longer heard around his grandmother’s house……her heart breaks each day from the silence. His mommy and grandmother have only the memory of Braylon’s beautiful smile, his sparkling big brown eyes, and the excitement he showed them when learning something new.

For months my sister struggled to just make it through another day. She dealt with the defendant’s family and friends harassing her when she was taking care of business in town. Her only goal was to make sure justice was done and she feared this vicious man would serve only a few years, and would be released to only cause harm to another innocent child or adult.

So today, I am asking that Kenneth Stringfellow be given a sentence equivalent to the life Braylon was robbed of that December afternoon. Kenneth Stringfellow does not deserve to walk among young families, he does not deserve to spend Christmas morning with his family and friends. His cunning behavior, his psychopathic assault against a 22 month old child, deserves life behind bars. Braylon deserves… nothing less.

Sincerely,
Terry R. Rumore, Aunt


TPOMC IS NOW RECEIVING DONATIONS
FROM GO FUND ME
OREGON POMC MEMORIAL WALL

On behalf of the Greater Portland Area Chapter of Parents of Murdered Children, I would like to express our deepest appreciation to all of the generous people who have donated to the building of our addition memorial wall. We have a beautiful POMC Memorial now and families and friends from all over Oregon and Washington come to honor the memory of their loved ones who were so brutally taken from them. Sadly to say, our wall is completely filled. We have 500 names engraved on it.

What we are planning to do when we have enough funds is to build an additional wall that will hold 1000 more names. We have so many families who are waiting to add their loved ones’ name. It means so much to them because one of our greatest fears as a co-victims of homicide is that our loved one will not be remembered. They did not get to live the life they were suppose to. Some of the names on our wall belong to little babies to any age of adult. As co-victims, we have all suffered the same loss, the loss of a loved one to homicide. Our lives were completely changed. Homicide cannot be resolved.

What is also important is that we also educate the public when people come to see our wall. Murder can happen to any family. If people see the amount of people who are murdered, they will realize how important protection of society truly is. We need a justice system that works and laws for the protection of society. At POMC, we wish that people would never need our services. Sadly to say, we are getting more calls each day.

Co-victims of homicide need the peace and tranquility we are able to achieve at our POMC Memorial Wall. We are surrounded by beautiful sequoia trees, running water from the memorial, flowers, verses engraved on the stones that stand tall by the wall and a serenity that gives them hope and a place to gather and see that they are not alone.
We again ask for your help and thank those who have been so generous to our cause. If you would like to help, please go to the website of “Go Fund Me” and look under “POMC Memorial Wall”. All donations are appreciated and tax deductible. So many of our members are waiting to add their loved one’s name to the wall. Oregon has the largest POMC Memorial in the United States. Thank you for your help.


THE STORY OF THE MURDER OF VICTORIA JOHNSON’S SON AND FIANANCE WILL BE SHOWN ON THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL WITH PAULA ZAHN “ON THE CASE” AT 10 p.m. ON MAY 22, 2016. PLEASE LOOK AT OUR WEB SITE FOR THE TIME AND DATE OF ANNIE McCANN ‘S STORY ON 20/20. NO DATE AS YET.


CRIME STATISTICS SPONSORED BY: THE U.S. DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE,
OFFICE OF JUSTICE PROGRAMS AND OFFICE FOR VICTIMS OF CRIME

Homicide: One person is murdered every 31 minutes.
Rape: One person is raped every 1.9 minutes.
Aggravated Assault: One person is assaulted every 36.9 seconds.
Larceny Theft: One home is victimized every 4.8 seconds.
Burglary: One home is burglarized every 18 seconds.
Domestic Violence: One woman is victimized by an intimate partner every 52 seconds.
One man is victimized every 3.5 minutes.
Child Abuse and Neglect: One child is reported abused or neglected every 34.9 seconds.
Drunk Driving: One person is killed in an alcohol related traffic crash every 40.4 minutes.
Identity Fraud: One person becomes a victim of identity theft every 4.9 seconds.
Elder Abuse: One elderly person is victimized every 4.2 minutes.
Hate crime: One hate crime is reported to the police every 69 minutes.


FUNDING FOR THE NEW MEMORIAL WALL IS NOW IN FULL FORCE

Funding for our new POMC Oregon/Washington Wall officially began this January, 2015. Members and friends of our chapter have been generous with donations and we are so thankful. Many of our new members are waiting for their loved ones names to be put on our new wall. We are listing new names that will be engraved when the wall is completed. We ask that members will call us, e-mail, or mail the information if you do not see your loved ones name on the list. The phone number is 503-656-8039, the e-mail is: elledge1@gmail.com or POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road.

We are designing the wall now and hoping to build a wall that will accommodate more names than the existing wall. We want to list all of our loved ones

If any of our members work at a company or know of anyone who would like to make a donation please let us know or it is fine for you to ask for a donation yourself. We are a non-profit organization. Donations are tax deductible. Please use the phone contact numbers from the first paragraph of this article. Thank you so much for your support.

LIST OF NAMES TO BE ENGRAVED ON THE NEW MEMORIAL WALL UPON COMPLETION

Ashley Benson
Benjamin Redmond
Carol Lynne Keightley
Charitee Vance
Coulton McComb-Buehler
Craig C. Moritz Jr.
Dale Archie Brown
David G. Swapp Jr.
Dean A. Kuntz
Dorothy Renee’ Fix
Douglas Oliver Benton
Glen Edward Drysdale
Jayme Sue Austin
Jeffery Ray Brown
Jeffery Towers
Jessica Lynn Clark
Julio Cesar Marquev
Kathleen Lois Bauman
Kenneth Dylan Lambert
Kyle William Peckman
London McCabe
Marcos J. Castillo
Nicolas Lawson
Nicolette Naomi Elias
Jodi Marie Brewer
Paul W. Miller
Randall Leo Gettman
Rebekah “Becky” Selegue Johnson
William Roland Hatch III
Harold Sloan Blanchard
Izaak Gillen
Braylon Michael Duguay

(Please contact us if your loved one’s name does not appear on this paper and you would like to have it added. A form will be added to our newsletter each month to be used for adding names for the wall when it is completed. Please check the spelling of your loved one’s name and let us know if it is wrong. You can e-mail us at elledge1@gmail.com, call 505-656-8039, or mail us at POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Rd., Oregon City, OR 97045.)

MEMORIAL DONATIONS FOR NEW WALL

PATRICIA AND JEFF S.
LOIS H.
KEITH AND PATRICIA E.


BETH GREEAR PUTS SUPPORT GROUP FOR POMC MEMBERS ON FACEBOOK

The Greater Portland Chapter is proud to announce that Beth Greear has created a facebook support group for POMC members. To reach it use: www.facebook.com/groups/POMC.Portlalnd.Vancouver/ Beth said that there are several “admins” of the page so she is sure it will be very beneficial to anyone who would like to use it.

We cannot thank her enough for the chance to have even more support for our members. Beth is an outstanding person who is always there to reach out to help others. She even brought a delicious dessert for our December holiday meeting. We will be writing more on this next month and giving the names of other members who are helping with this project.


THE GREATER PORTLAND CHAPTER WOULD LIKE TO SHARE A STORY: NATIONAL CRIME VICTIMS’ RIGHTS WEEK IS THE APPROPIATE TIME.

There could not be a better time to share the story of beautiful Annie McCann. Annie is the daughter of Mary Jane and Dan McCann. You will also find a letter in this newsletter that was written to State Attorney Marilyn Mosby about getting help for the McCann family.

Mary Jane and Dan have written an article so that you can read the entire account, “The Color of Puke”, on line. It is a compelling story that we hope you will read:

What do parents do when their child’s apparent murder goes unexplored? That’s what POMC members Mary Jane and Dan McCann are struggling with. They’ve written of their cruel ordeal. Here is an excerpt:

“Annie died under the most sinister of circumstances. She was seen by two extraordinarily reliable eyewitnesses as lively, animated, and unbruised at a pastry shop in Baltimore’s Little Italy. A few short hours later, a few blocks away, she was found soaking wet, without shoes , with blunt force trauma to both sides of her forehead, with a vicious bruise on her backside and a bloody bra, poisoned with a massively lethal amount of lidocaine in her engorged stomach, stuffed behind a dumpster by thugs, who If they didn’t kill her themselves, were likely paid to dump her.

The best objective guess on how Annie died? It tracks pretty closely to FBI Deputy Assistant and Director Campbell’s testimony to Congress. She was lured under false pretenses from her sheltered suburban home by human traffickers, and murdered with a lethal dose of lidocaine, probably in an alcoholic drink, when she resisted the unfolding plan. That is informed by speculation, based on the facts we’ve learned; in honesty and accuracy, it is light-years beyond the impossible theory, that Annie killed herself.

What’s really needed is a vigorous and open-mined police investigation. That’s all we’ve ever asked for. It’s never been done.”

You can read the entire account, “The Color of Puke” online.

https://medium.com/@maryjaneanddanmccann/the-color-of-puke-4284f44330d5

During this year’s commemoration of National Crime Victims’ Week, can we engage our POMC community to help the McCanns gain justice for their daughter?


THE FAMILY OF SHELLEY DAWN
ELKINS HELPS KEEP MURDERER IN PRISON

Shelley Dawn Elkins, born on May 31, 1968, was a beautiful twenty year old woman who had loving parents, Nina and Don Elkins, and a devoted loving sister, Sharon Christensen. Shelley was engaged and was living in own home with her fiancé when she was murdered on May 31, 1989.

Dail Ryan Yates waited for her fiancé, his cousin, to go to work early in the morning when he decided to murder Shelley. He strangled her. He showed no remorse. In fact, six months earlier he shot and killed a man in Estacada, Oregon. He was charged with the man’s murder and kept in jail until his trial. Unfortunately, he was found not guilty. He had claimed self-defense. It was less than a month later, that he murdered Shelley. For a family, it is unbearable to think that if justice had been handed out their daughter might not have been murdered.

After the murder of Shelley, Yates was found guilty and given life with the minimum of 25 years. On February 18, 2014, he was given a parole exit hearing. He had served his twenty-five years.

Shelley’s sister, Sharon, spent hours contacting people to write letters against Dail’s release and working with Victims Specialist Attorney Rosemary Brewer to get information and evidence that Dail Yates was a risk to society if he were let out. Ms. Brewer is an excellent attorney who is well prepared to assist victims trying to keep a murderer behind bars when they are likely to commit a crime again. Again, Mr. Yates was not sorry he murdered Shelley.

The Parole Board listened to both sides and ruled that Dail Ryan Yates should serve four more years. Many letters against his release were mailed in and eleven people were there to support Shelley’s memory. Ms. Brewer proved he was a risk. Shelley’s sister Sharon spoke as well.

As a chapter, we are proud of the Elkins family and all of those who helped keep a murderer in prison longer to protect society. We also offer the Elkins’ family our deepest sympathy and support. Your daughter Shelley would be proud. Your actions are protecting society. Shelley is and will always be remembered. We would also like to thank Rosemary Brewer for an excellent job as well as the Board of Parole and Debbie Wojciechowski, Victim Specialist . Debbie is excellent in helping co-victims of homicide go through the painful experience of revisiting the murder of their loved one.

Mary Elledge


LIVING WITHOUT JUSTICE

Unsolved Homicides ~ A CoVictims’ Worst Nightmare

The murder of a loved one is the most horrific thing a person can experience.  The only thing that can make it worse is a substandard initial investigation or not seeing justice in your case.  Timely collection of evidence followed by an arrest and conviction would provide a degree of comfort, but what happens to co-victims when a thorough investigation is not done, and there is no arrest?  Many of the victims' friends and acquaintances will gradually let go of their grief over time, but the closest of friends and family will remain in a state of sorrow, haunted by the injustice of investigators that may not have conformed to rules or standard operating procedures during their initial investigation.  Not only is there no relief, but the agony of the event changes their lives forever, and becomes part of their very being.  Co-victims' everyday battle becomes their effort to get a thorough investigation.

Helplessness is a gut-wrenching emotion which plagues co-victims who are not allowed to assist with the investigation and are longing for justice.  We don't want to let our loved one down; we are compelled to fight for justice no matter how long it takes.  As the process drags on, frustration grows.  Many times, due to confidentiality, important conversations between co-victims and law enforcement are avoided, and this lack of communication can cause co-victims to feel neglected and disrespected, which often manifests itself in frustration, anger, and a loss of confidence in the investigators. Regular contact and truthfulness are two of the most important things survivors need from law enforcement. We need investigators to focus on routine communication of as much information as possible with sensitivity and without being misleading. Survivors’ perception that information is not being shared with them can result in them feeling they have been secondarily victimized. As the years pass, co-victims start wondering if their unsolved homicide could be reviewed by a fresh set of eyes, and they often look into getting their case to a cold case unit, only to find out that some jurisdictions don't even have a cold case unit.   If there is a cold case unit in their jurisdiction, cases are evaluated and chosen according to a set of criteria.  Co-victims whose cases seem to be continuously passed over for review become dismayed and even angry toward law enforcement. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action, but uncontrolled anger can negatively affect personal or social well-being. 

Co-victims who put forth the effort to examine and understand the cold case process and various factors which must be dealt with during cold case investigations are able to put the process into perspective.  They must understand that cold cases are among the most difficult and frustrating cases for both co-victims and law enforcement, and not every case is chosen to be investigated.  It helps to review the following criteria checklist used by the National Sheriff’s Association, Justice Solutions and POMC: 

Complete an application for cold case review. This application includes detailed information regarding agency reports, victimology, suspects/persons of interest, timeline, coroner, lab reports, investigation documents, weapon descriptions and media releases.  

Co-victims should also be aware that closing rates can be more successful if investigators work only one or two cases at a time.  At this point, if we find out that our case doesn’t qualify for review by a cold case unit, our only hope is that a thorough re-investigation will be done by homicide investigators. 

If you have comments or questions about this article, please email: pat.kuiper@yahoo.com or call Pat Kuiper at 702-809-8654 to get your loved ones' name listed in our newsletter.  Feel free to contact Pat if you would like to share your story. 

UNSOLVED CASES

Lucy Eilertson (1998)
Diana Moffitt (1987)
Donald James Brown (2007)
Kimberly Larson Reames (1983)
William (Bill) Mark Stratton (2005)


SIBLING SITE IS LAUNCHED

The Greater Portland Chapter is so proud of our member, Amanda Harris, for launching her official site for siblings. Amanda is offering the Website: www.unitingsiblings.com so that sibling co-victims of homicide have a place to go where they will be understood and supported. This site will include video, chat, and telephone conference via a secure and private interface. Amanda is paying for the expenses and will be delighted to be another support for sibling co-victims. Amanda can also be reached at: Amanda@unitingsiblings.com or 623-866-3189.

Amanda Harris is now ready to start her web site for siblings. The Portland Chapter is excited about the support and understanding this new group will be for the many often overlooked survivors.


NATIONAL POMC SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER SUBSCRIPTION FORM

Please find, enclosed, $10.00 for my annual subscription (three issues) for the Survivors Newsletter.
(Please consider adding an extra subscription fee to help defray the cost for someone who cannot afford it.)

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PERMISSION FOR ENGRAVING OF NAMES FOR POMC’S OREGON/WASHINGTON MEMORIAL WALL

PRINTED NAME OF LOVED ONE_________________________________________ (This will be engraved on the wall)

LOVED ONE’S BIRTHDATE____________________________ DEATH DATE____________________________

MEMBER/FRIEND’S NAME AND ADDRESS ____________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________________________________________

MEMBER/FRIEND’S PHONE NUMBER_____________________________ Do you want a Newsletter? Yes No

SIGNATURE FOR PERMISSION TO
ENGRAVE NAME AND SPELLING APPROVAL_________________________________________________________

Please submit one form for each loved one. Please make efforts with other family members/friends to ensure multiple requests are not received for the same name. When completed, please mail, fax, or e-mail to the following places: POMC, Mary Elledge, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR 97045 or fax 503-656-4420, or e-mail: elledge1@email.com. If you have any questions, please call 503-656-8039.

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Oregon-Washington Public Memorial Garden
Remembering Those We Have Lost to Murder
CONTRIBUTION OR PLEDGE FORM

Please Complete and Return to Memorial Garden,
POMC 14427 S. Forsythe Rd Oregon City, OR 97045

100% of Contributions are Tax Deductible

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Tacoma Violent Crime Victim Services Welcomes Homicide Survivors

Peer Support Group Meeting

If someone you love has been the victim of a homicide, we invite you to attend our monthly support group meeting. You will find acceptance, compassion and support.

Place: United Way Building
3rd FLOOR CONFERENCE ROOM

Date: 3rd Wednesday of Each Month!
Time: 7:30PM – 10:00PM

The United Way Building is located in Tacoma, at 1501 Pacific Avenue. This is the same building that the VCVS office is located in. It is next to Union Station on the north side. As you pass Union Station you will see the United Way Building. Parking is on the south side of the building. Please park your vehicle in an open space and enter the building’s front entrance and take the elevator to the third floor. The conference room is Suite 312. Please call Lew Cox for more information (253) 383-5254.


Court Watch

POMC'S Court Watch Program is designed to help families maneuver through the court system. Two of the most important aspects of Court Watch are the prevention of any re-victimization to family members, and the minimizing of the emotional pain of going through hearings and trials.

If you would like support from POMC during hearings and trials or want to offer assistance, call Pat Elmore at 503-312-5681 or Allen Tremain at 503-522- 0577.


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